I will begin by saying this thread is hypothetical! But wondering how other mothers would approach this...
When my first DS was born, it was a surprise. REAL surprise. As in - the first time DH & I were ever together (he was my boyfriend then), the condom broke, & we were pregnant. I literally never took a pregnancy test until I was 12 weeks because I'd only had sex once!! I was 18 then, and then I was 19 when he was born. It was a very complicated pregnancy and he was born 4 lb 11 oz (IUGR, preeclampsia, & hole in his heart)... but healthy. Just him being alive was such a miracle and so overwhelming. Plus I was young and clueless.... I knew NOTHING - nothing, nothing, nothing about parenting, let alone circumcision. After all, I was a girl, my younger sibling was a girl, and none of my friends or siblings had their own children yet.
So when the nurse came in on day one and said "Is he going to be circumcised?" I just stared blankly at my DH. She decided to leave us alone to talk about it and it turns out - he knew as little as I did. All he knew was that he WAS circumcised. We asked our parents, but all THEY knew was that they circumcised their boys.... (none of them seemed to have a reason why or why not). So (yes, I am ashamed..) we basically said "Sure, circumcise him".
Here we are 33 months later, and DS is a happy healthy little guy. But now, DH & I are married, and we are adults with a clue. We now have new addition DD who is 3 months and DH just got a new job that also gave me the chance to have a new job.... SAHM! We are starting to talk about and think about when we'd like to have another baby (we're not ready just yet, but we've become responsible planners ), and we're covering a lot of things that are new issues for us now that we are AP/NP parents. Today while taking about whether or not we are going to vaccinate DD, we stumbled across whether or not we will circumcise again if the next baby (or any future babies) is a boy.
If you had to name your top 5 reasons NOT to circumcise, what would they be? And have any of you ever been in a situation where you have previously circumcised a child, and then not his sibling? I don't know how I would explain why he is different from DS & DH.. but I also don't see that as enough of a reason to do it. Any thoughts here?