when are you telling? - Page 2

[EngineeringMama]

Redbirdlady I LOOOVE that idea!

[squidink]

We told my parents and two friends.  Apart from that, I have to keep it secret from facebook/ the general public as long as possible because I'll probably get instantly fired when my work finds out.  Since I'm technically an independent contractor I don't think I can do anything about it, but it sure seems like that should be illegal in all cases.

[wildflower18]

Well, as expected, it's sooner than later that we are telling.  M/s took a turn for the worse yesterday, I'm planning on telling my supervisor tomorrow morning, then my staff so they know why I'm so miserable.  DH told my MIL today.  I called my sister.  Still not wanting to break the news as I'm not ready for "congratulations" and attention as this was an unexpected pg and we have only known for 2 weeks ourselves.

[maptome]

We're waiting until 14 weeks to tell our immediate family and 20 to tell friends, extended family, and general public.  We'll see how it goes.  I may have to fess up if I start puking all the time, or if my bump appears obvious.  Thankfully(?) I still have a pooch from last pregnancy to hide a bump for a good while, I think.

[RubThyNeighbor]

We have told our immediate family and I have told my best friend who im going away with this week., yoga teacher, my ayurvedic teacher and a classmate who also recently found out she is pregnnt.

Super early but I dont think I would not seek their support if something happened and i lost the baby.

For my first, I told all my friends and family right away because I was on  "party vacation" at 6 weeks in and didnt want to seem so strange that I wasnt partying. LOL

[lactatinggirl]

You're all stronger women then me to wait so long. :-P

I found out a few days before Mother's Day, so on Mother's Day I sent a video to all of the grandparents of DD (26 months) saying "I'm gonna be a big sister!" I mostly told them because I wanted to start blogging about it and I felt they needed to know first. I run a mildly popular blog called The Adventures of Lactating Girl and I'm doing a whole series on my natural pregnancy. Basically the choices I'm making and why. I also Tweet and that's connected to my Facebook, so everyone I know knows pretty much. Yeah, I'm only 5 weeks along and it would suck to have to untell everyone if I miscarried, but I also think I'd prefer to have the support rather than suffer in silence. 

[Harleth]

This is a really complicated issue for me. In our community you typically keep it hush hush for the first trimester or until you start showing. However I work in science and therefore I need my boss and coworkers to take special precautions to keep certain dangerous things away from me (we've done this before when another coworker was present). I feel wrong telling work before family.

Luckily I am going on a three week vacation in 12 days. I should be about 9 wks when we get back which is when we will go for my visit to the Dr. to hear the heartbeat. So after that visit we will be telling our bosses and our parents. Everyone else will have to wait one more month or so. :)

I'm dying to tell all ready.

I also blog about budgeting and deal finding, so I would like to start featuring baby deals, but will wait until I tell my parents in case this tips anyone off.

[mamasmoman]

I found out while DH was away(he still is), so he was the first person I called. I also told my MIL (we're really close). Other than them, I have everyone I want to tell in two groups: The "We heard the heartbeat" group and the "15 weeks" group. My closest friends and a few family members are in the first group and the rest of my family and friends on Facebook are in the other :)

[mrspnut82]

Well since I'm only 3 weeks I have a long ways to go. My husband (and online people I don't know irl lol) are the only ones who know. It's so early and I get nervous in early pregnancy about the possibility of mc so I'm trying to wait until 8 weeks to tell close family/friends. Idk if DH can wait that long though, he doesn't see the need. Well maybe I will tell my mother a little sooner. Unfortunately my sil is coming up in a week and she is like a pregnancy psychic lol. She always guesses. Hopefully she won't though because then all DH's family will know cause she has a big mouth. She's only gonna be up here for 2 days, so that's good.

Other people can wait until someone spills or after 12 weeks.

[bellaSweets]

Originally Posted by redbirdlady 

I told my best friend and my brother.  The kids don't know yet.

Fiancee and I aren't getting married for another couple of months, and even though we did try to get pregnant, we don't need people raising eyebrows early on. ;)

We just moved into our new home, and are planning to have a housewarming party sometime in July or August. We're planning on hanging a banner that says, "Happy Housewarming" or something to that effect, and then an hour into the party, slyly drop something from behind the banner that says, "And we got married when none of you were paying attention." And maybe an hour after that, drop another something from behind that says, "Oh, and by the way, we're also pregnant."  And then we'll see if people notice... ;)

This is waaaay cool and LOVE the idea!

[BeanSprout Mama]

I don't know exactly when I'm due so I'm sure I'll have an early ultrasound to give me an accurate due date. We'll tell the older children once we see a heartbeat on ultrasound. We are going to tell our families on Father's Day. I've told my good friends but I haven't decided when I'll tell my other coworkers yet.

[Kaitlyn811]

The father has already started to tell people! As soon as I had a positive pregnancy test he told his dad and several others, lol. But I've had a couple miscarriages in the past (God decided it wasn't the right time I guess) so I'm wanting to wait (at the earliest) end of June when we'll be on vaca with his family. And then in July (end of my first trimester) when we're on vaca with my family. Actually I'm really apprehensive to tell my family so I was thinking of sending them a post card with an ultrasound picture on it...and letting them know that way. Any opinions on this? 

[Milly_P]

We used to tell people immediately. I figured that the ppl I would tell I was pregnant to would be the same ppl I'd want support from if I had a miscarriage, so it didn't matter to wait. Now with the past couple of experiences we've had, there are only a couple people I'd want to tell if I had another tragedy, so basically my husband is the only person who knows. We are going to tell after/if we see the heartbeat at my sono next week.

[ablepearl]

We are not telling everyone yet, but not really hiding it either.  WIth my last pregnancy I was so 'tight fisted' about telling people and tried to keep it a secret as long as possible.  Outside of our immediate friends/family and my work we really didn't tell anyone until 20+ weeks.  We thought we were safe at tthat point, but found out we were wrong.  When we lost the baby so many people never even knew I was pregnant.  I missed out on enjoying the pregnancy and having people be happy for us by waiting so long.

This time I am not going to be so quiet about it.  Once I tell my parents and my close friend, I will annoucne it on Facebook and let everyone know.  Even if this pregnancy ends in loss too, I want people to be able to honor this baby's life too, no matter how short it may be.  The support we got from the people that knew we were pregnant was much better then those that didn't find out until it was too late.

I am not sure when to tell my good friend though.  We found out I was pregnant for sure on May 13th, the day her mother passed away.  Also the anniversary of my son's stillbirth.  Yeah, a real heavy day now for sure!  So, I am not sure if she is ready to hear about it, but I don't want to wait too long, you know?

[thorn]

we went fully public yesterday after my first OB appointment and seeing the heartbeat again.  7w1d

[writinglove]

I've told a handful of close friends and co-workers. We are holding off to tell the family and our larger circle of friends until the beginning of the second trimester. 

[montessorimama1]

I told DH right away over the phone (I'm living in Italy, he's in CA) and then told my mom and dad (it was Mother's Day).  My roommate/close friend found out right away (she knew I'd be testing and has been my moral support through the 2ww).  Then I waited about two days before telling three close friends in grad school, and I had to tell my best friend about a week ago because I was going to be her MOH at her wedding and had to back out.

Other than that, I've kept it quiet (DH hasn't even told his family yet, although I'd be fine if he told his folks and sisters). 

We've written a haiku to share the news, but I'm going to wait until after my first MW appointment so that we can hear the HB (on week 14 because that's when I finish school and move back to CA).

I'm so excited to share the news, I can't wait!!!!!  We have three friends who are also pregnant and I want to share our pregnacy with them so badly... Just a few more weeks...

[Adaline'sMama]

There are a couple of MDCers that I know IRL that obviously know . Other than that, I told my best friend when I was nervous about the potential about getting pg, but she hasnt asked if Ive tested yet, so I havent told her. DH's little sister is in Jordan right now and will be home the first week of June, which would (if my calculations are right) put me right at about 6 weeks. We'll probably tell her then because we are picking her up from the airport in Chicago and it would be a long drive trying to make small talk and not tell her. That would mean that we'd have to tell his mom that day (his sis is only 19, and she will be excited). MIL is the main person Im worried about as far as a negative reaction goes. I dont think she is going to be stoked. So, after the two of them know, I think we'll tell my family and close friends. I'd like to wait to announce it on fb until I have an ultrasound pic, but I dont know if I can wait that long.

[chely7425]

Uh, I suppose never wouldn't be an appropriate answer?  A few friends of mine know, but nobody else because I don't want to tell my parents.  This is our 4th (and a total surprise) and we got pregnant during RnR.  To give you some idea of how well received the news will be by my parents... before DH came home for his 2 weeks my dad asked me if I was on BC to prevent myself getting into "this situation" again...

[cameragirl]

I told a couple close friends first, and then my mom. My mom was so excited that my daughter figured something was up, so now she knows, too. They told my sisters. I was planning on waiting, but can't treat my migraines and they kind of figured something was up. I'll probably wait a few weeks to tell extended family.