My son just turned 7 and they have a Gifted program at his school that starts in grade one. He went to preschool and then Montessori, and all of his teachers consistently said he should be tested for giftedness - was reading by age 3, doing addition/subtraction at age 4, long division by age 5, LOVES math (one of his favorite things to do is get a calculator and quiz himself on multiple digit calculations to see if he can get them right). From an early age, he was always in to sorting things, adding and subtracting things, not so much in to regular "play". He has an impecable memory.
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He's reading at about a grade 3 level (he's in grade one) and got all A's on his mid-term report card. He's in French Immersion at the moment. He really connects with older kids and not so much with kids his own age. He doesn't really have any friends at school (though he tries to play with the grade 7 and 8's). He has also really connected with two separate friends kids who are both gifted children – it’s like they “get” each other.
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He was identified for gifted testing in Kindergarten last year by the school and our board did part of the test (Stanford Binet something or other - the one for older kids).  His school has a special gifted class for those who are 97th percentile or higher. Unfortunately, there were some medical issues in our family and some things happened the morning of his testing (we didn't know it was that day - they wouldn't tell us in advance which day it was) that he ended up leaving for school thinking his father and I were going to die and he was sobbing (DH was talking of suicide and I was being tested for breast cancer and I had received bad news that morning - that later turned out to be good news – but DH and I were arguing over it and DS heard us – NOT a good morning). As he left for school, me and his dad were yelling at each other and crying, he refused to eat breakfast and he was sobbing - he kept hugging me and crying, asking why I was crying, and I yelled "because I'm going to die!". Of course he starts sobbing, his dad starts talking about how nobody cares that HE's about to die...That morning will always stay with me as my worst parenting moment ever. We later found out he did his gifted testing that morning.
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They gave him the first part of the test and said it took him a long time to warm up, he was very quiet and seemed upset, but he apparently scored 94th percentile, then in the 2nd part of the test (not sure what that means) they said he shut down and wouldn’t finish it – just clammed up and was really upset and crying and just “shut right down” as the school psychologist described it). She said he came in around 75% percentile but they considered it an incomplete test because they thought he was able to continue but was really upset and couldn’t. I explained what had happened that morning and said it probably was related.
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They suggested we have him retested, but we had to wait a year and pay for it ourselves – nearly $2000. Well, the appointment is next week and I’m just wondering if we should bother. If he really was only 75th and 94th then he’s not even close to qualifying for the gifted class and it will likely be a waste of money. They won’t approve a special education plan for a child in our board unless they are over 97th percentile on both sections. However, I’m still wondering if he would qualify under “normal” circumstances.
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The other concern I have is that his dad has been away in treatment at an in-patient program and returned today, so this may cause some disruption in DS’s routine and security etc. (he and DH don’t get along very well) and he may end up not performing to his abilities right now anyway. However, he’s so far ahead of his class he is not really challenged and he has no friends. If he is going to go in to the gifted class in the fall, I need to know pretty soon.
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I guess part of me is hopeful that if he qualifies and moves in to the gifted class, he might be able to connect with some of these kids. Â If I thought there was a strong chance that his score would be that much different, I would do it, but how likely is it that the emotional upset and lack of breakfast impacted his results, and how likely is it that they will be that much higher now?
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Thoughts?
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