Originally Posted by beebalmmama
My ds is there too and only 17 months. I seem to recall this stage coming later with my first ds.
I find myself doing (or not doing things) to avoid his little meltdowns.
Like not taking out the recycling/trash. Because whenever you open the door he thinks it's time to go out and play and will have a huge tantrum when he realizes he doesn't get to..... So lately anytime you open the door without taking him outside results in a meltdown.
I think with ds 1 I really struggled with this age because I was always trying to prevent his tantrums. I guess I'm rolling with it this time around. I talk to ds and tell him 'I'm sorry you're mad" " I know you want to go out". But for the most part he seems to have to move on himself. Usually if I try to physically console I end up getting butted in the head or him trying to flop out of my arms.
I really think a lot of tantrums is due to the lack of language they have to express themselves.
Originally Posted by zuzunel09
This is totally DS. There are so many things I "can't" do because they set him off; no opening the front door, jingling keys, letting him see our cell phones...I feel a little better hearing that my son isn't the only one. He comprehends nearly everything I say to him, but his speech is delayed. I think he has fewer than 10 words to be honest, and they aren't very clear. So maybe he is as frustrated as I am. I guess I chose the GD forum for this because when I hear the screaming and grunting, it is very very hard for me to breathe through it and talk to him rationally. My first instinct is to say "What is the MATTER with you??" even though I know it's because he's, duh, less than two years old.
Same here. My 18 month old screams SO loud, SO often about every. single. thing. that I am afraid the neighbors are gonna call CPS or something.
There is no direct access to our garage from inside the house and our washer and dryer are in the garage. Which means any time I need to go out there to switch out laundry, or check the mail or take out the trash or recycling or even just go get something out of the car, I have to bring my keys with me and lock the deadbolt behind me. If I don't, DS2 opens the door and follows me out. Which is no big deal, right? Cause he can "help" with the laundry etc. Sure he can. Until it is time to go back in. Which is always sooner than he would like. At which point he is having none of it and screams bloody murder at the top of his lungs because I eventually have to pick him up and bring him in against his will.
I can't go pee in peace. If I bring him with me, he opens the drawers and dumps out my jewelry, toothbrush, plays in the trash, bangs on the mirror or glass shower doors until I am afraid it will crack. If I lock him out and go alone, he finds something to break/climb/destroy in the 35 seconds I am gone. If I put him in the pack in play prior to going to pee, he screams SO loud that my older DS puts a pillow over his own ears to try to protect them and once again, I am subjecting innocent neighbors to earth shattering screams.
I can't open the pantry, cause he tries and succeeds to disassemble the printer (which is in the pantry) and take out the ink cartridges in the few moments I am grabbing the items I need...or he digs in the recycling box and reaches for the one aluminum can which can cut his finger. When I offer more appropriate things to play w/he will refuse and screams when I take the non-appropriate item away. My refrigerator is duct taped closed to prevent him from opening it 500 times per day. When he opens it and I close it, you guessed it...screams! No amount of talking and explaining works. I've "babyproofed" everything I can, but it is pointless. He now pushes dining chairs up to the counter to reach things out of his reach. (Like an entire drawer filled w/kitchen gadgets like carrot peeler, cheese grater, can opener, pizza cutter...I have to take the drawer out of it's hole and place it on top of the counter each day because of the way it is designed there is no lock that will fit it to keep him from opening it.)
It's so tiring. I am just hoping and praying it gets better as he learns to talk more....but I am skeptical. He can say lots of words and has lots of signs, but just chooses the screaming as his first method of voicing his displeasure.
My first two kids were NOT like this. DH jokes (sort of) that it is lucky DS2 is the third child, because if he were the first, he'd be the only.