I will try to keep this breif and to the point, or I will end up with a novel so here goes.
Im a single mother of three kids. My oldest is a boy age 7. He is in the first grade and while I never had him tested, I am pretty sure he is gifted. Not that a number really matters to me. What matters is that he finds school boooooring and he fits most of the points on the "how to recognize gifted children-list". Especially the parts about underachieving :(
Its all too easy for him and while his teachers actually want to help out, they seem like they have no special knowledge of how to handle high-iq kids. They do give him extra assignments but only when he is done doing the boring ones. Recently they gave him a book with assigments for the second grade. He thought that was fun and worked through it in a couple of weeks, hardly getting any assistence or help from me or anyone else. He read the assignment descriptions himself and just worked till he was done. Now they dont know what to do.
I am not on the best of terms with his main (language teacher). I find her prejudice and I dont trust her good judgement. She is not a bad person or a bad teacher really - I just really dont agree with her on so many levels. Including the one where she obviuosly thinks, that because I am disorganized and sometimes mess up practical stuff then I must also be in need of special support, well meant but patronising parenting advice and her interfering in stuff she shouldnt. I could make this longer but it would be boring. Lets just say our most recent conflict was about her trying to force my kid to perform at a spring concert even though he told her several times he has stage fright. And I mean he seriously fears it, so its not just about not wanting to. Anyway she kept pushing him so he started provoking her by refusing to stand up - stuff like that.
Anyway the meeting with his teachers is coming up. I want to take this opportunity to educate them abit about how giftedness affects him in school and socially.
So I need to educate these people about how to do their job - or at least inspire them to learn more about giftedness and resulting problems. Where do I start? They are so busy already with 26 kids in a classroom, and they have to make sure everyone lears stuff at his or her level. No wonder its difficult, but that wont help my son like school more or learn to work to achieve goals.
Its a public school with no special program for talented or gifted children. I can't afford private schools so basically I have to work with what I've got.
SO this ended up long anyway. Didn't mean it to, but if you got this far, then please help me plan my case.
ETA: A short disclaimer :)
I am NOT in the US, and our first language is not english, Advice involving legal rights or options that are specific to the US system wont be very useful to me. Thanks.