My infant son and I are on Medicaid. My teenaged son is on my Husband's insurance, but that will stop by the end of the month. My Husband and I are legally married, but have been separated for a year and a half now. My infant son is not my legal Husband's- he is the result of a bad "relationship" with someone I thought was a "friend". I live with my two sons and have not been able to go back to work after the birth of my baby (three months) due to no way to pay for childcare. My sons and I are all on Food Stamps and we live in NY. I'm about to become homeless and my sister in MA has offered to take me in. But my lawyer tells me there's a legal loophole- I'd have to move before May (when Paternity is established), so that means two weekends from now is when my family would be able to help me.
My questions are...
Can Medicaid continue from state to state and can I add my older son? They're both due for checkups and my older son is on medication that should not be interrupted.
If I apply for Food Stamps, Cash Assistance and WIC, will that be a problem for my sister- she gets Food Stamps for herself, her Husband and their four children and WIC for her three youngest children? Also, would I be able to use my NY June WIC checks in MA? Can two families even live in the same house but be counted separate for these things?
How would I prove that I'm homeless and living with family? My NY Driver's Permit is about to run out next week and the only form of picture ID I will have will be my NY Benefits card and I will not have any bills and will just be coming from out of state, so I don't know how I will be able to prove that I'm actually living with family.
My lawyer tells me there's a chance that I could be ordered back to NY, in which case I'd be in a homeless shelter in NY without benefit of a family support system, but that it's worth a shot, because I'm gonna be homeless anyways if I stay. Has anyone had any similar experiences? Paternity is not proven yet, but there's no doubt. The father currently cannot see me, the baby, or my older son, due to a restraining order, and my lawyer and I were planning on asking for supervised visitation. Has anyone had to move out of state due to domestic violence and pending homelessness and worked around supervised visitation with an infant? Neither me nor the father have a license or a car, though there are ways to get back and forth (5 hours by train and bus, 9 hours by bus alone) between the two places. Suggestions to make this look doable to the judge?
And if you can't help me with any of these questions, please keep me and my sons in your thoughts/prayers/good wishes, whatever. If I can get back to MA with family, me and my sons might stand a chance- they will grow up in a real house, most likely be able to live there their entire childhoods, live with their Aunt and cousins, my sister is a stay-at-home Mother and she has a three year old son and twin 9 month olds (as well as a 10 year old daughter), so the baby will have close relatives as playmates his entire childhood, as well as a close relative to take care of him when I go back to work, my family is very close knit, many unable to travel to NY due to medical issues, the house is in the country with a giant backyard filled with toys, I won't have to constantly worry about how I'm gonna support my children, I'll be able to finally get my license, and I won't have to go back to work immediately, which is wonderful, since my baby is 100% breastfed, hates bottles. If I'm ordered to bring the baby back to NY, my older son would have to stay with my sister (he's too emotionally fragile to go into a shelter right now), so we'd be breaking our little family up, I will literally have nobody in NY for emotional or financial support, no way to go back and visit my family or get my license, and basically, I'll be raising the baby in poverty, with his father being the only "outside support" (and I use that term extremely loosely). I really need to make this work and hopefully, the judge will be understanding of my situation even though the father's gonna claim what a "hardship" it will be to see his son.