I have three children, DS 1(8), DS 2 (5) & DD 15 months. With the exception of my DS 1 (He is actually 50% for weight & 75% for height but I still get comments about him too), the other two are barely on the charts as far as percentile goes. Both are hovering, respectively around the 5% for weight and are roughly 25% for height (DD is closer to 20%). While our Dr has not shown much concern over this it has been brought up many times from strangers to relatives. My children have been called walking skeletons (to my face & behind my back along with other things), so I'm not quite sure what to think. My DD also failed to gain weight at her last check-up, but again the Dr was not concerned. At this point I'm unsure if i need a new Dr or need to not let the comments get to me, or how do i change their diet to get them to gain weight? All blood work is good, and all three also take a multi-vitamin daily
My kids eat big time. All three of them could out eat me in a heartbeat. We also eat all meals at home, prepared from scratch, I use full fat everything too. We do not eat a lot of sugar but I make the occasional treat, maybe once a week, & again from scratch. A lot of the produce is either locally grown or organic, and I do cater to each child's likes & dislikes over veggie & fruit, even if it means I have to make three different 'green veggie' sides. Our dairy is from a local organic dairy not raw but low-vat pasteurized. We buy their milk, cheese & butter. The only prepackaged things I buy is Organic cereal & bread, & PB.
DS 1 is very, very picky about his fruit & veggies but otherwise drinks tons of milk and eats like a horse. 59 LBS
DS 2 is less picky but isn't big on milk, not even chocolate milk. He acts like he wants it but never drinks it. He is 34LBS
DD Eats everything we eat, unseasoned, and is on full fat cows milk. She had BM until 6 months & then things just fell apart. She is 22LBS now and has been since 12 months, at 9 months she was 19 LBS.
None of my children have delays, just this ability to eat tons of food and not gain. All three are very active as far as exercise is concerned.
DH is completely average and I'm almost average, but as far as family history goes I've been overweight most my life & DH was always a beanpole until these past recent years.
My kids seldom have sugar apart from fruit. No fruit juice, just fruit. We are not grain free, but do not eat wheat (this is more recent & only for the past month). We use GF bean flour for baking now. We don't really follow a specific 'diet' we just eat real food.
A Typical Day:
Cereal & Milk + eggs scrambled with butter & veggies (DD just eggs & veggies or yogurt)
Milk or Water to drink
Fruit (Banana, Apple, Pear, etc) and Cheese or yogurt
Leftovers or sandwiches
Milk or water to drink
Fruit, and cheese or yogurt
Meat, fish beans or pasta, and veggies, quinoa or rice & salad.
Milk or water to drink
Dessert once a week, usually Sunday, whatever i baked.
They eat till they are done, usually no fights over unfinished food. I don't make them clean their plates, though they usually do on their own. Seconds are always available too.
I cook heavily with real butter & olive oil, occasionally (2-3 times a month) i deep fry in peanut oil too.
Some days they may get a cookie or other treat as a snack but I'm not huge on giving them sugar. I know its in the cereal and bread (when not homemade) but I find I am OK with that right now. Also with everything I read it won't make them loose weight, which is not what we are looking for. Also every time i send them(DS & DS2) on vacation to Grammy's house, they come back looking more filled out but as soon as they start eating our diet it drops off. They eat a lot of junk food (cookies, pies, sugar, etc) when they are there but the diet remains much the same apart from that.
Are my children just naturally thin or am i missing something in their diet? I am that horrible for not allowing them to have large amounts of processed sugar? This is something that has been eating at me for some time now but our Dr just brushes it off and says "We see too many kids on the other end of the percentile, It's refreshing to see tall and thin kids". I want to believe her but my gut tells me they need to gain a little weight, at the very least DS 2 & DD. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated.