Jill, have you posted in your tribal area? I know your tagline is that you're in a hole by a mountain, but maybe someone would be nearby? I'm glad to see that you're trying to get some help, but it sounds like you need more than some help, you need lots of help!
Thinking thick cervical thoughts for you!!
There are a whole bunch of ladies about 2 hours away, but we are REALLY REALLY rural, and I've posted in there many times over the years without finding anyone!
What about a teenager? School is almost out for the summer and perhaps a graduating senior that is going on to study childcare or elementary education would be able to live in over the summer and help you out with the kiddos, and get some experience to boot. The nice thing about teenagers are they are full of energy, and you can train them to do things the way you like them done. Perhaps some of the Mammas in your tribal area would know of someone like that to come and help you.