My DH and I just began the process for separation. Our goal is not devorce. But I cannot tollorate his choices anymore and he refuses to get couseling. I feel this is my last resort to wake him up that changes need to be made. that is not the issue though. We have two yong children, a 1yr old and 4 yr old. Wondering with such young children how you arranged visitation/custody. I would like to be equal as possible, but both children are very attached to me and the baby is still nursing a lot. He has struggled with solid foods and is not yet able to be away from me for extended periods of time. The older child is very much attached to me at night we have always bedshared/co-slept.
I have been a stay at home mom also the bulk of our marriage. What is a reasonable request for support of two children and possibly myself until I can obtain employment.
Also how much say should grandparents have? My in-laws are demanding visitation also. Can they do that if DH does not request visitation? I think if they want to see the children in should be on DH time not mine.