I appreciate the input from all of you. I won't be making it very light and humorous, because that's just not me, but I am sure I will revise the wording before I post it in a week or two. I have decided to go ahead and post something, because I need to at least attempt to make my wishes known.
Originally Posted by amaayeh
I see what everyone else is saying, but I've learned with my family that there are only grey areas and unless I make it abundantly clear my EXACT expectations, they will not respect it. Even then, there are some that still wouldn't. I say do whatever you think it necessary to ensure the result you want. What about disabling posting on your wall as soon as you go into labor? It's under 'account;privacy settings'.
This is the way I am feeling. I feel comfortable with what my needs are, and after reading this thread and discussing it with dh, I'd rather some people be rubbed the wrong way then me not having our wishes respected. I am planning to disable posting on my fb wall, but I am not planning to make any computer stuff a priority so it might just not happen. If I have a leisurely slow labour with lots of time, and feel good after the birth, we might feel like going online and announcing right away and this will all be for nothing.
Originally Posted by Max'sMama
Then immediately after birth have dh post to both your profiles. People will be shocked enough and trying to figure out if you are serious.
Two minutes later post stats and just ask nicely but bluntly for no visitors.
This is possible, but the idea is that I don't want to have to rush to the computer while I am busy having a baby or enjoying a newborn. I also don't want to say no visitors, I just want them to understand what my plans are so they can choose not to visit if they are not comfortable visiting me in bed.
Originally Posted by MaryElizabeth
Most people understand that you are exhausted and will be in your pj's. Also, most people won't stay very long. Once that baby starts crying---- they run for it! hahaha But, you have two already--- did you have a bad experience with this the first time around??
Originally Posted by slylives
I'm certain you don't mean it this way, but it sounds rather patronising, and as though none of your friends/family have ever dealt with a newborn or would understand why you would still be in bed. (It's absolutely your prerogative to do whatever you like, but - I promise - getting dressed won't bring your nursing relationship to a screeching halt!)
My experience has been that not everyone is as understanding as I would like (and need), and if they don't know my wishes I can't expect them to be respected. My MDC and midwifery type friends will get it, but most other people genuinely don't understand why I would purposely stay in bed for a whole week or longer, and I don't want to share personal medical reasons for doing so in a general note to all my friends/family. I could just say "midwife's orders," and I might. I am also aware that getting dressed won't bring breastfeeding to a halt, but neither would not lying in at all. I breastfed my first two without lying in and understand that it can be done, it's just not how I want to do it this time.
Originally Posted by springbride
With DD i was in labor for over 2 days, so the last thing I want to deal with is someone posting, "Yeah her water broke etc..." and then get phone calls from the 9 brothers and sisters hearing, "Is he here yet?".
This is another aspect - I don't want to broadcast when I am in labour for the same reason. This will be easier though, because I won't be specifically calling people to tell them about labour like I will after the birth.