I agree with the first sentence but IDK what you mean by the second. I am assuming you mean b/c I said discipline and boundaries are important? Like PP said and I have said discipline is not punishment. I don't see it as control either and I certainly don't expect a child who would "reinvent the wheel of social behavior". I strongly agree with Dr.Sears's Discipline book in 99% of the aspects of it accept some of the time out stuff b/c I don't do time outs. Perhaps very rarely as a "punishment" when DD is older and with a more positive mood like "reflection time" or something similar. Just b/c I discipline (which to me is really guidance) often does not mean I am a "militant mother" or anything.
I agree with you but the parents would label themselves as GD parents and sometimes that self-identification tarnishes an otherwise good parenting strategy. It is important to distinguish between gently guiding your child and forcing them to reinvent the wheel of social behavior.