My daughter, Ella Caraway, is named for my husband's and my paternal grandmothers. My grandmother, Ella Brady, was called by both names, and so the name "Ella" by itself really doesn't mean anything to me. It doesn't really even sound like a complete name to me because I'm so used to hearing it followed by "Brady". Anyway, when people ask my daughter (18-months old), "What's your name?" I always say, "She's Ella Caraway." And they say, "Oh, hello Ella." Then I say, "We actually call her by both names. Ella Caraway." They usually stop saying her name at that point. If it's someone we'll likely never see again (stranger in a store), I just let it go. But often it's people we might not see again for a few weeks. Then they'll come up with, "Oh, hello Ella!"
Additionally, we have two sets of neighbors who only call her by her first name. I've kept thinking that they would hear us continue to call her by both names and follow suit, but it hasn't happened that way. Now I'm at the point where I'm getting frustrated with them. They're very kind, and they delight in seeing her, but it's driving me crazy!
How would you try to "correct" people who have been told that we use both names but just seem to ignore it? I really don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but I don't want to live with yucky feelings, either!
Btw, my SIL told me that it's "just too long." I pointed out to her that it's the same number of syllables as her best friend's name (Mary Margaret) which I've never heard anyone shorten. I realize it's unusual, but is that really a good reason for folks to ignore our wishes?