I agree that none of us determine what our children are like, as Linda says, but also that we can influence who they become, as APToddlerMama says. We can't control it, but we can do our best to be positive influences. But there is no telling what we've done that made our children turn out a certain way, be it positive or negative, and no telling how our children would have turned out had we done it differently.
Because of that, it makes no sense to judge others who parent differently, especially if their children are doing fine. Non-AP parents love their kids just as much, and even AP parents can lack empathy and confidence (as is evident from comments on this thread, both ones expressing judgement and ones expressing frustration over being judged) Non-AP parents have difficulty; non-AP methods come with obstacles too.
To claim that AP, or even non-AP, produces a certain outcome is a fallacy; there's no proof a different method would not have the same results or that even that it was your parenting which made your child the lovely person he or she is. Maybe they were just born lovely. We're always so quick to applaud our parenting when our children turn out well, but when they rob convenience stores, it couldn't possibly have been our parenting because we did everything right... Obviously it's not just our parenting!