Plus, I am trying to lose weight, and I really wanted to get back down to 130 (30 lbs to go!) before I became pg again. My house is a wreck all the time and I have tons of office-y stuff that Im super behind on because I have a very active baby toddeling around everywhere.Oh, did I mention that we bought land to build a house because we are currently in a tiny apartment in the back of an old store. one very small bedroom.
We typically abstain three days before and after O, so a full week total. But on Tuesday we had a few beers together and it just happened. I think we had some miscommunication, but at any rate, he didnt pull out. Im 90% sure O was on Wednesday. I still havent told him that its a possibility. I know that he will be super stressed out about it, so Id prefer to wait until I know whether I am pg or not to tell him. We have a date this coming weekend (21st) and it will be the first time that DD is spending the night away. I know we are both really looking forward to having a night together without the babe. I cant decide if I should try to test before then and tell him that night i get a positive, or if I should wait and test after our date. I feel like if I get a faint line , or if its not a BFP I will just be nervous all night long. If its negative Ill be afraid that its just not showing up.
I know its really too early to even be concerned, but when we conceived DD, I just knew. Maybe Im wrong, and Ive only experienced it once, but I have that feeling again. Its much less exciting this time. Ive always been very direct with DH about these sort of things, but he is so stressed out about money right now, and hes working upwards of 50 hours a week. I really dont want to add to his stress if I dont have to.
When do you think I should test?
Should I wait to tell DH until after our date?
ETA: After rereading this I realized that is sounds really negative. DH and I DO want more kids, and if I am pg, we will be super happy about it, even if it takes some getting used to.