*** MAY we blossom with BFPs! *** ONE Thread ~May 15 to 21~

[Sourire]

WELCOME TO THE "ONE" THREAD  for May 15-21!!!!

posted by alexisyael in 2004:

The One Thread is designed for all on the MDC board. No matter where you are in your cycle, you are welcome to join the One Thread! We are also open to those who are "Waiting to be Ready" for one reason or another. We continue to embrace those of us who have become pregnant as well. Feel free to jump in at any time and introduce yourself!

To help keep the list current and manageable, members will be deleted after a month of not posting to a One thread.

If you would like to be a threadkeeper please let this week's threadkeeper know!

Please make add/remove/change requests in Bold.

Waiting to O 

asprague

belacmsage

bremen 

brichole1214

BubbleMa

callieollie

cbaa2010 

Cellist

Dandy Lion

Gemmine

gozal 

hokievol

OdinsMommy0409

Shelley71

silamarila

Sourire

Stevi

tantylynn

TenzinsMama

texanromaniac

tinyflame

vivica2

xxkayluhh07xx

Zyon'sMommy

 

 Waiting to Know (2ww) 

BeachLove

Engineeringmama

filiadeluna

Fnord

SithLadyFred

skyemama81

WildDoula

Waiting for Aunt Flo

crunchymama514

lilacvioletiris
 

 WTF IS GOING ON?!?! 

Beppie

 Waiting to be Ready 

Bfillingham

remark71

sleepingbeauty

SweetTea

 ~ GRADUATES~ 

Big congrats to you all!!

Graduate Thread: http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1311345/the-one-thread-graduates-bellies-in-bloom-may-2011 (whoever is the current threadkeeper here can update the graduate link as needed)

May BFP's!

MommyMatsumoto 

writinglove

April BFP's!

babyyfever

fnpmama

Mummoth 

insidevoice

rah0315

Amanda Williams 

LadyScientist

prayingforbaby

March BFP's!

Gemmine

TTCChloeOrConner 

Veronika01

Edited by Sourire - 5/22/11 at 8:02am

[belacmsage]

Thanks for the new thread!

[Gemmine]

Temp dropped this morning so I'm out this cycle. :-( Onward to June I guess. tantylynn, can't wait to see your test! *hugs* to Fnord. I'm still glad one of our group got that BFP!

[Stevi]

Brichole1214...   Don't hospitals and nurses have to have your permission to give your child a pacifier? I am currently 100% against using them, and would be fumimg if somebody stuck one in my baby's mouth!

[Sourire]

My mom is such a jerk... I was just having a conversation with her about TTC and Clomid and the increased risk of twins and such and I told her I'd rather not have twins because of the increased risks and stress and so on... and she was like, I wish I had had less pregnancies, I would have took twins if I could have a avoided a pregnancy... then she says "you have no idea what its like to be pregnant or give birth so how can you believe that its better to have more pregnancies for the same amount of kids?"

I was really insulted by her comment about me having no idea what its like to be pregnant... I mean its true and all but its just so mean! It's not by choice that I have never been pregnant yet in my life! She knows exactly how bad I want to be pregnant and how many years I have wanted it! And she has been trying to discourage me from having kids for a while... she keeps implying that she thinks having her own kids was a mistake... like me and my brother and sisters were all mistakes and she wishes she never had us.... I think maybe she wishes she could divorce us from her lives like she recently did to my dad. She simply doesn't understand why I want kids so bad... as if she could possibly know anything I am going through... she never once struggled to get pregnant (in fact 2 of us were accidents) and she already had 3 kids by the time she was my age!

[MommyMatsumoto]

Wow... just wow.  I'm sorry your mom made you feel like that!  You will know what it's like to be pregnant soon enough and I pray that it's wonderful.  When I was pregnant with my DD it was the happiest time of my life and I have never felt more beautiful or sexy.  And I'm sure that if you had twins, you'd be over the moon (as would I) even though carrying twins probably does have added stress.  If you're worried about the pregnancy and birth with twins though - don't be.  I know plenty of women who have had long, healthy pregnancies and beautiful, natural childbirths with twins.

Hang in there, my friend!!
 

Originally Posted by Sourire 

My mom is such a jerk... I was just having a conversation with her about TTC and Clomid and the increased risk of twins and such and I told her I'd rather not have twins because of the increased risks and stress and so on... and she was like, I wish I had had less pregnancies, I would have took twins if I could have a avoided a pregnancy... then she says "you have no idea what its like to be pregnant or give birth so how can you believe that its better to have more pregnancies for the same amount of kids?"

I was really insulted by her comment about me having no idea what its like to be pregnant... I mean its true and all but its just so mean! It's not by choice that I have never been pregnant yet in my life! She knows exactly how bad I want to be pregnant and how many years I have wanted it! And she has been trying to discourage me from having kids for a while... she keeps implying that she thinks having her own kids was a mistake... like me and my brother and sisters were all mistakes and she wishes she never had us.... I think maybe she wishes she could divorce us from her lives like she recently did to my dad. She simply doesn't understand why I want kids so bad... as if she could possibly know anything I am going through... she never once struggled to get pregnant (in fact 2 of us were accidents) and she already had 3 kids by the time she was my age!

[MommyMatsumoto]

((HUGS)) to Gemmine and Fnord!

Any news, Tantylynn?

[brichole1214]

Originally Posted by Stevi 

Brichole1214...   Don't hospitals and nurses have to have your permission to give your child a pacifier? I am currently 100% against using them, and would be fumimg if somebody stuck one in my baby's mouth!

 They are SUPPOSED TO...but Emma started becoming jaundic (sp?) on day 2 at the hospital so they kept her under the ligths ALL DAY and would only bring her to me when she was to the point of STARVING to feed...and since she was crying so much they went and put one in her mouth!!! I WAS PISSED!!! I still am mad as heck!!!!

[Gemmine]

Oh tantylynn: Yes, my birthday is the 25th! We'll probably hit the beach that weekend even though it will be super-crowded due to Memorial weekend. On the actual day I'll probably do a dinner with all my girlfriends.

Sourire: I'm so sorry. That really sucks that your mom said that. One thing I have learned from trying to conceive is that so many people lack basic empathy.

[Zyon'sMommy]

thanks for the new thread !!!!

[SilaMarila]

Thanks for the new thread & thank you everyone for the encouragement  I am working to change my focus to the family that I do have instead of fantasizing and obsessing over the one I don't. I don't want to miss out on "moments" with DS as he is growing up so fast and I don't want my marriage consumed with TTC. I am continuing to move forward in this TTC journey and we will see what lies ahead!

Before I begin a google fest - anyone out there using B6? Notice any changes with it? Have any good links/info to share about it? I'm currently taking a tsp of raw Maca powder/day (and have been for a long time) and over the last 3days have increased taking 1000/1500mg Evening Primrose Oil/day. I don't think I can go the soy route and am still wary of vitex.

Gemmine, Fnord, Sourire  I agree w/ Gemmine. TTC has made me so careful about what I say about babies/pg ect. w/ friends and others because you never know who is going through the same thing. TTC also makes you so much more aware of how much empathy others do lack. Gemmine, Fnord, your charts looked great this cycle. Keep workin it til works! Sourire, hoping you will soon have a little one to love and that your mom will be able to remember all the joy that babies bring rather than dwell on discouraging you...

Brichole - I am so sad and sorry you had such a terrible w/ the hospital and such a rough time BF your DD! I have no doubt you did your very best. I hope the next time around your experience will be much more pleasant and enjoyable! There is SO much support for BF but I am sure you know that 

Stevi - ((High Five)) on being 100% against pacifiers!!! DS never had one and boy did that freak people out... I am SO thankful I chose not to use one and 10000X more thankful every time I see a 3+ year old w/ one in their mouth. Ok, climbing off my soapbox now...

[tantylynn]

BFN. Two of them actually, but I tried to convince myself that yesterday's at 10DPO was just too early. But today's was BFN too. Guess it's onto fertility treatments for me, I really hoped I could do this on my own darn it.

** Gemmine & Fnord, and I agree - so happy we got one BFP out of our little testing group!!

[writinglove]

Thanks, sourire, for the new thread. I'm sorry your mom was rude.

Hugs to all with BFNs.

Congrats to mommym!
 

AFM: I'm waiting to test on Tuesday morning. I broke down and POAS Friday afternoon, using a digital so it would be easier to read. What did I get? I got a blank screen.   I'm taking it as a sign to chill out and wait until I miss (fingers crossed) AF.

[BeachLove]

I'd like to be added to the list, please! I'm in the 2ww!

Thanks!

[BubbleMa]

Thanks for the new thread!

Hugs to all those with BFNs or AF. 

Sourire, I'm sorry your mom was so rotten to you.  My mom has a bad habit of saying hurtful things too.  I tell myself she doesn't realize what she's saying and she feels bad about it, who knows if that's true or not, but it helps. :)

AFM, I'm supposed to get my period Thursday, but SO is out of town until Friday.  I'm trying to wait until he's home to test.  Wish me luck!

OH!  I totally forgot...earlier today I was doing laundry and happened to look over at the wall by the dryer and saw "the_baby_1620" written on the wall.  It's the strangest thing.  Neither SO or DD did it.  I've never noticed it before (we've lived here since November).  It's so weird!  Hopefully someone is trying to tell me something.  ;)

[tantylynn]

 BeachLove!

[Stevi]

SilaMarila...   I started taking a B complex right before my first BFP. I do believe it mat have had a positive effect on my cycles, in fact I still take it  every day.

BubbleMa...   How odd. So how much Googling have you done for 1620? LOL

[SilaMarila]

BeachLove! Good luck with your 2ww!!!

 Tantylynn I'm so sorry and sad you didn't get your BFP. Best of luck on pursuing fertility treatments! 

Stevi - Thanks! I'm going to keep researching...

BubbleMa - Woah, really weird...hoping there is a BFP in your (near) future!

One more question for those who have time to answer. Do you have your DH/SO take supplements too? Which ones/why? I have tried to get DH to take Maca but he won't make himself a smoothie ect everyday like I do to put it in...maybe I will get him capsules...Many times I think my body is not the only one that is making it more difficult for us to conceive. DH works night shifts and I really think it screws around with his hormones. He has pretty much always worked nights shifts but when he switched to days for a short time we got pg w/ DS that month. Maybe just coincidence. He also rides a bike for work (not the whole time but a few hours/day 4xwk) and I worry about his sperm! He is also on hot tub restrictions - a hobby of his that helps him relax after 12hr shifts and being on his feet/bike. Hot tubs totally gross me out. ick. I hope I am not alone in my sperm worries lol

[gozal]

Thanks for the new thread! Please move me to Waiting to O.

Gemmine, sorry to hear you are in the same situation. Go June!

Sourire, What your mom said...whoa. "Insensitive" just doesn't cover it!! I agree with MamaMatsumoto - my pregnancy was one of the happiest times in my life, and I enjoyed my pregnancy so much. On the morning before I gave birth, my OB told me I was officially the happiest 41-weeks-pregnant woman she had ever seen! I wish you just the same. I think the desire to have children is profound, the sort of internal conviction that cannot be explained. It has to be experienced.

BubbleMa, maybe your baby will be born on either the 16th or 20th...of next February? Hoping that's what it means!

SilaMarila, it does sound to me like night shifts and bicycle riding could have an effect. Is there an alternate way for DH to get to work, at least part of the time? Has he done an SA? I think some OBs will give you a script for one if you have a valid concern (which you do).

[CDsMom1031]

I hope you ladies don't mind me butting it. I'm still an avid lurker. =D

I took B6 the three months before I got my BFP. Besides the bright yellow pee I'd have, LOL, I noticed more energy. But everything I read that had + HPTs with B6 said that it took around 3-6 months for it to happen, so maybe the B6 played a part in helping my little growin' child be conceived?
 

Originally Posted by SilaMarila 
Before I begin a google fest - anyone out there using B6? Notice any changes with it? Have any good links/info to share about it? I'm currently taking a tsp of raw Maca powder/day (and have been for a long time) and over the last 3days have increased taking 1000/1500mg Evening Primrose Oil/day. I don't think I can go the soy route and am still wary of vitex.