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Hmmm...interesting. I do remember the stress when he was laid off last year and unemployment was not enough to cover the bills. It is definitely a tough choice. This summer, he would not be working nights so that would help. I don't know. Plus, this current job may not last forever, the money is from the economic stimulus so very likely in a year, he wouldn't have that job anymore anyway. Or at least wouldn't be making the current money. When they are not working on government buildings, he makes the same as what he would make at the other company, although it would be 40 hours a week. So part of me feels like we should take this money while we can because it will not always be there. Who knows, maybe it would only last through the summer anyway? The thing is that construction is so slow and I don't know if or when it will ever return to the way it was. I just know that DP is miserable working like this and is realizing that he is missing out on a lot. We have also just been remodeling our kitchen every weekend, so I think it has been seeming like he doesn't see us. Now that we're done with that, weekends will go back to normal so maybe that will help. I was encouraging him to at least talk to the other company and see what they have to offer. Couldn't hurt!

Thanks for your replies. Part of me is so idealistic, but the other part is very realistic so I am having an internal clash at the moment! Plus, I am burned out on being a single parent during the week, so that is coloring this as well. I'm tired of being alone. And yes, I do get out and see friends, but it's not the same as having your partner come home every night and share in the childcare/household duties.



I saw the job was now gone anyway. But it looks like from what you described above it would be worth holding off on a change for now, unless another great position comes up somewhere. Is there anyway he can stop putting in the extra hours over the weekend? That way you could feel like he is really home while he's home. I agree with a pp about the added stress and your relationship. Dh and I see plenty of eachother but our finances suck and therefore half the time we're too stressed to enjoy ourselves together or end up talking about finances which then makes us stressed.

 

post #22 of 22

Wold you be willing to work 10-20 hours a week to make up the lag?  This would cover his less than full time status and not take too much time out of your week.  I may not add family time but would give baby more time with daddy.  Also if you think creatively about a job it might actually add time.   I work at a grocery store, I can shop on my break, keep up with sales and get small discount. 

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