Originally Posted by 4evermom
While it might be rude to not eat what is served, it's MORE rude to serve food you know a guest doesn't like or can't tolerate, ya know?
I agree. She's a guest in your home. You should cook what she can eat.
I can't eat many foods because of DS's food allergies/sensitivities (I'm still bfing). When you are a guest in someone's home and you are hungry but cannot eat the food everyone else is eating, it just sucks- there's no other way to put it. I'm not normally picky, but I've realized that my son's health issues are greatly influenced by diet, and so I'm willing to make certain sacrifices. My family thinks I'm crazy though and says I should just wean him so I can eat what I want.
About a month ago we were invited over to a friend's house for a get-together. My friend told me what was on the menu ahead of time, just to make sure I could eat the food and not have to bring my own. Everything sounded fine. However, when I got there she had "forgotten" and put feta cheese and bread crumbs in the burger, sprinkled and melted cheese all over the sweet potatoes, and tossed a dressing into the salad that I couldn't eat. I ended up eating the veggies and hummus that I brought for an appetizer and a few bites of DS's food. Of course I said, "Oh, don't worry about it! I promise, I'm fine just eating some of DS's food. Don't worry about me!" But it leaves you feeling really, really terrible. You feel bad for having to be picky and even worse for realizing that your friend doesn't think enough of you to realize you can't eat a single thing she's prepared.
I realize that the OP's situation is a little different. Her MIL is just picky (although, sometimes aversions to certain foods can be the sign of an allergy). Who knows why she does it. Control? Anxiety? Sensory issues? Just for the fun of it? I say, OP, that you just deal with it. Is it really that big of a sacrifice for a week?