I am so jealous of all the mom's here who have had their babies already. It's making me feel like a jerk because instead of being happy, I just feel somewhat bitter.
I'm pretty sure everyone secretly feels that way. 
So I've been completely content with waiting for my babe. I know it's gonna happen when it happens and I'm ready. So today I was being all gushy talking about my baby and how excited I was and how I couldn't wait to meet her blah blah blah. THEN my mom just came down on me about all this stuff I was going to have to deal with (the hospital, title nineteen, people bombarding us, possibly the dad :/) and how I wasn't being realistic about how things were gonna go. I think it's mostly b/c she really hates hospitals/relatives and doesn't wanna deal with it herself, but still she doesn't have to be such a downer!
Ouch! 
I'm so sorry. Just stay in your happy place. You'll deal with things as they come one at a time--and you're strong and capable. You have every right to be happy about meeting your baby girl. Honestly, I don't think your mom's mood is all about you, so try not to take it personally. It sounds like she is trying to process things on her end--like the fact that her baby is going to be a mama very, very soon. But again, try to step back and remember that whatever is going on with your mom is not your burden to carry. You have your own things to process, like the fact that you're going to be a mama very, very soon. You have every right to step into that role with all the happiness imaginable. And don't let anyone block your sunshine. 
Yes. We do. 
Riley, I think that the reality of parenthood is hard for everyone. But from your mom's reaction, it sounds like SHE is probably dealing with a lot of stress right now, and putting it on to you. You do have some hard things ahead of you, yes... But I think it's fantastic to focus on the really important thing: meeting your baby girl! Don't take your mom's panic as a lack of faith in your ability as a mama. You'll understand so very soon how we want to shield our kids, and how painful it is when we can't. And sometimes we mamas handle that burden gracefully, and sometimes we don't!!
Yeah. I didn't take it too personally because I know when my mom gets stressed she's not very tactful about telling people whats really wrong she just complains about everything. Sometimes it's just hard to be patient with her when she's like that. Plus it got me thinking that way too a little. I mean it's gonna be a pain, but I'm just gonna deal with things as they come along instead of stressing about them ahead of time.
I mean it's gonna be a pain, but I'm just gonna deal with things as they come along instead of stressing about them ahead of time.
SouthernStormy, I had a hard time quitting work as well. I think I felt scared not to be making at least a little money that was "mine." I'm lucky that my husband can support both of us on his income but it was very weird for me to become completely financially dependent on someone else. Also I enjoyed the satisfaction of being good at my job.
Hugs all around -- we are all going through a bit of rough times. 
My petty complaints for today are that it's 3 am, I can't sleep but I'm super tired, DH is snoring, I think my glands are swollen and my ear still tickles a bit and I just want to have this darn baby. 
Riley - I was a single momma with DD from the time I found out I was pregnant until we moved in with DF when she was three. The paternal father has never been involved in any capacity, including financially. And honestly? I loved it. My mom wasn't always very supportive during my pregnancy (At one point she told me she thought I would "dump" the baby on her) but once DD was born my mom fell in love, and she's been so supportive. She's really one of my best friends now. If you ever want to talk about being a single mama feel free to pm me!
And now I'd like to play a game I call pregnancy hormones of legitimate complaint! DF went out of town this morning for his brother's wedding. He texted me that they landed safely, and I texted back asking if he had a problem getting through security with the present I picked out (a wine stopper that holds a candle. It kind of ended in a spike, haha). He never answered. I was feeling really bad last night and this morning, and having a lot of pain in my pelvis, which he knew. I don't know, I would have thought he would have called to check in. Even if his phone was dead, I would think he would borrow his mother's or something just to, you know, make sure I hadn't gone into labor. And to let me know his phone was, in fact, dead. He's been out of town a lot this summer and he knows it's important to me that we touch base at night. Even if it's just a text, that connection is important to me. So... crazy-hormones or no?
Oh gosh, that chiropractic appointment really did absolutely NOTHING for me. I'm still hobbling around like a woman 60 years my senior. Sigh. I really didn't want to be limping and gimping this afternoon in front of friends, but I guess that's the way it goes? For the record, the $100 was the fee for the first visit. After that it goes to $42 per visit. Which I understand that intake is a bit more work, but... I just wanted relief of ANY kind!!
Also, I have nothing to wear this afternoon. I know it's a piddly complaint, but... Nothing fits. I have to wear the belly band with everything because I own not a single shirt right now that will cover my belly. And I'm down to 1 pair of shorts and 1 skirt that fit on the bottom. And the skirt is such a length that it makes my calves look enormous! I also own a dress that fits but it's a spaghetti strap number which basically makes it more of a nightgown. The no bra thing is NOT an option in public for this mama... But, I'd like to look halfway presentable at the BBQ this afternoon, and instead it's going to be me in my sad pair of shorts and a t-shirt that belongs on someone about 3 months less pregnant than me.
Also, to wear the shorts I have to shave my legs. Which is so EASY at this point 
Even if it's just a text, that connection is important to me. So... crazy-hormones or no?
Not hormones. When DH travels, I expect calls. That's just common courtesy. And I jump to the worst case scenario even when I'm NOT pregnant... But I don't think it's crazy-hormones (although those probably don't help you to feel great about the situation). That's not so say that DH is always GOOD about calling though. And I don't think he means anything by it. He's just very much a man when it comes to these things 
CCL: My cat has been the same way. She is hovering around me with all of her fluffy white fur and rubs on me every time I try to do some pelvic rock (hands and knees to keep babe in an anterior position--also feels good on my back)--then I get fur in my mouth. It is soooo annoying. I hope it means our babies are coming soon!!
Mareseatoats - NO! Def not hormones! But my DH thinks the same way, I have to tell him to call me....it's very frustrating.
Italiamom- So sorry your chiropractic appt didn't do anything for you. Hoping you find some kind of relief soon.
Riley - Sorry about your mom. Once baby gets here I'm sure things will be better. When my DD was born there was a lot of conflict going on in my family, particularly between my DH and mom. I was really stressin' about it but as soon as that baby gets in your arms you will forget everything. Nothing can trumph that feeling. You'll also get the mama backbone then too and will not want to put up with any drama...at least that's what happened to me. And believe me, I let them know lol. It's not about anybody but you and that baby and don't let anybody say otherwise.
AFM, I had a rough night and morning. I am an emotional mess! I been crying all morning, but I think I've finally got myself under control. I didn't sleep last night, I was sore, uncomfortable and the heartburn returned. Also, I rolled over to change positions and had to go pee just a little, not bad, what happened.....peed my pants b/c I absolutely couldn't hold it. I hate that! So I'm up at 4:30ish changing. Couldn't go back to sleep after that. DH gets up at about 7 and gets ready to go out to breakfast with his old men. That totally makes me livid. I ask him every weekend to stay home and be with me and DD but it's like he pays no attention. I want him for a whole weekend to stay home! I don't think that's too much to ask! I'm almost 9 mos pregnant, I'm tired, sore, uncomfortable and grumpy...and I'd appreciate some help with our daughter. Well, he saw that I was upset and asks me what's wrong....as if he didn't already know. It's always the same argument every weekend, he should see it comin' by now. I'm tired of askin' him to stay. I don't mind him doing that occassionally but every weekend is a tad bit ridiculous to me. So, of course, he stays home b/c I'm crying at that point. I'm tired of explaining it all to him over and over again. I know he thinks I'm just some crazy hormonal woman, so why bother.
I'm exhausted. I got in the bath to try and relieve my hip pain some...didn't do much. DD gets up and DH is of course useless. I try to sleep on the couch but she whines and he just doesn't handle her well. So he offers to take her somewhere. She does pretty good with him if he can get her involved in some sort of activity. I have to get up get her dressed and back her a bag to take, he's clueless as to what to do. I suggest he take her to the park and feed the ducks since I've been saving some old stale bread for that purpose. Can't believe he actually listened to me. So they are off to the park to play and feed the ducks....thank God! But I miss her as soon as she goes out the door, it's not her fault I don't feel well.
So here I am drinking milk and eating a hershey's symphony chocolate bar (best thing ever!) to drown my sorrows. And afterwards maybe I can lay down and get some sleep while it's quiet in the house. I have so many nesting urges but just no energy to do it right now. I got news for DH when he gets back...he's helping me! I'm tired of nothing getting done around here b/c he's always out helping somebody else. But that's a whole other story that would be a completely different rant all on its own. Off to eat chocolate and rest!
Sorry for the vent ladies! But now I feel a little better....
DH promised to help me clean and nest today, including writing the birth plan. He was supposed to go into work until noon. He met his coworkers early, early for breakfast, so I haven't seen him all day and now he emailed to say they are bringing in lunch. Who knows how long he will be there? I'm 38 weeks on Monday. I feel like this baby could come at any time. Again, I have to do all the work myself. I'm SICK of it! And I already know he'll be too tired to help when he gets home tonight.
GRRRRRRRRRRRRR..........................................
And while I'm trying to do everything, I get to deal with a fussy toddler who won't nap. I wish I got better sleep last night, that I wasn't so hormonal and that I had a LOT more patience. 
Ughh I'm so sick of my body teasing me. I lost part of my mucus plug about a week ago, was all crampy, feeling pressure and nothing happened. Now I've had diarrhea since like 5 this morning, I feel sick to my stomach so I can't seem to eat, and I'm losing mucus again. I don't even wanna get in the mindset that my baby is coming soon cause I don't wanna get my hopes up, but I really hope so! I mean my due date is only 5 days away so it could be, but who knows. :/
ETA- Thanks for all the support guys. I complained before I read the previous comments. lol I agree that once the baby comes everyone will be so in awe (mostly me) that we won't bother arguing about stupid things we can't help.
mareseatoats- I reallly hope the dad just let's me do my thing. I don't need his support financially or emotionally. He'll just cause more stress so like you said I would looove to do this on my own. I know in the end my families got my back.
I just want to send a big ole' hug to all you guys, PL and Bethany especially, dealing with DH's that are otherwise occupied. I know firsthand how it feels. It's so, so not cool.
Riley - UGH. I hope your little girl comes soon. How frustrating!!
Italiamom - You need to find some relief, woman! What on earth! I can't believe the chiro didn't help at all!!! That blows!! And i hope you found something comfy to wear. Comfy beats fashion this late in the game, you know that. My belly hangs out of all my shirts once I start moving around, too. Whatev's. There's a baby in there, people, deal with it. LOL.
I'll read other complaints later. I just had to pop on to say that, inevitably, when you're in a time crunch, your toddler will shit on your bed. I know this, because my toddler just shit on my bed.
I had wanted to lay him down for a short nap. He was getting drowsy, and being really good, so I let him lay in bed while I took a shower. He went to sleep for a bit. I was so elated that I actually got him down to nap in about 15 minutes, no fussing. 30 minutes later he came out, all smiles. And I noticed he wasn't wearing his diaper.
Sigh.
Little buddy woke up, took off his diaper, pooped, and then came out to give us a huge hug and kiss.
On tomorrow's list of things to do, was to make up the beds with the waterproof table cloths.
I'll read other complaints later. I just had to pop on to say that, inevitably, when you're in a time crunch, your toddler will shit on your bed. I know this, because my toddler just shit on my bed.
I had wanted to lay him down for a short nap. He was getting drowsy, and being really good, so I let him lay in bed while I took a shower. He went to sleep for a bit. I was so elated that I actually got him down to nap in about 15 minutes, no fussing. 30 minutes later he came out, all smiles. And I noticed he wasn't wearing his diaper.
Sigh.
Little buddy woke up, took off his diaper, pooped, and then came out to give us a huge hug and kiss.
On tomorrow's list of things to do, was to make up the beds with the waterproof table cloths.
You just can't win!!! OMG. 
Sounds like everyone is having a difficult time right now.
I'm soooo tired. I haven't been able to get much sleep due to overheating at night and bathroom runs several times a night. Then the last few days DS has been fussing during his nap times and spends most of the time crying and/or whining instead of sleeping, so I haven't even been able to get a nap during the day. Yesterday afternoon I'd just about reached the end of my limit and was counting down the minutes until DH got home. He usually finishes around 4pm on a Friday and its a 45 min drive home. 5:15pm he calls to say that is him just leaving work. I totally flipped and hung up on him. He came home with a big bunch of roses, as if cut flowers will suddenly make everything better.
Then this morning he is booking his flights for his business trip to Connecticut next week. The important meeting is Tuesday, then he decided to add on some extra stuff since he was up there anyway. So the plan was fly up Monday and fly back Wednesday. But because the guy he is going up to meet only confirmed what day he was available yesterday, leaving DH no time for booking flights, DH couldn't get a flight back on Wednesday with the airline he always uses. I suggested forgetting about the airmiles and go for another airline. But NOOOOOOO, DH decides it makes more sense to stay up in Connecticut an extra day and fly back late Thursday rather than loose airmiles. He knows I'm already not happy about him being gone next week, even though I'll only be 36 weeks, as I won't have the car (it'll be sitting in the airport parking lot!!!!!) so will not even be able to go get groceries if I run out of anything, and he thinks being gone an whole extra day is no big deal.
DS has a follow up appointment with the Urologist next week, which DH had already rescheduled for Thursday, as he was planning on being back late Wednesday night, so now we're going to have to reschedule again. (Which I'm making him do as its his fault.)
I'm not concerned about going into labor while he is gone, but he really doesn't seem to get how much I need a break from DS every day when DH gets home. That time where the two of them spend time playing, even just for 15 minutes is a sanity saver at this point. Now I'm going to not only be exhausted, but have no break all week, and no real adult conversation all week either. And all for some stupid airmiles.
Adding my own little complaint. I was cleaning around the house and the pressure down below was just unbelieveable and getting out of hand. I decided to look at my lady bits b/c I haven't in awhile. Oh boy, I really shouldn't have! 
This varicose vein that I have is so ugly and so scary and I'm just so over it. I want to get this baby out just so I never have to see this awful thing again. It's much larger than it was when I first noticed it and that's were all the achy-ness and pain is coming from. Boo hiss. I want my body back. No more babies for me. Ever.
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