I'm planning a homebirth and my husband is not comfortable being there during the labor or birth. He thinks that with a midwife, her assistant, and a doula that I will have everyone I need and he said that he'll just wait on the porch :) I don't know whether I should keep bugging him to be there or if I should just let it go and hire a doula and leave it open for him to change his mind. If I'm being honest, he wasn't very helpful during my labor with our son and was just nervous the whole time. I feel kind of compelled to have him there because "that's what husbands are supposed to do" but on the other hand, I want to be well supported and he may not be the person for that particular job. I know it doesn't mean that he loves me or the baby less, birth stuff just freaks him out.
Has anyone dealt with this before? How did your labor/birth go without your partner there?