Hi Azhie! Here are some of my own personal cosleeping tips:
- Always sleep facing toward the baby. Never sleep with your back to the baby.
- I never, ever put the baby between my husband and myself. He is a heavy sleeper, so I would sleep with the baby next to the wall. Make sure there is no gap between the bed and wall.
- My daughter was born in the winter, so it was pretty cold at night. I used a crocheted blanket, the kind with holes throughout. That way, just in case she ever did get the blanket over her head (she never did) there would be enough holes to breathe through.
- After nursing the baby, you can scooch down in the bed, so your head is closer to the baby's head (almost face to face). Instead of sleeping with the baby down by your stomach/waist, your head and the baby's head can be at the same level. I did this often.
- If you are sleeping with your head close to the baby's head, you can arrange your pillow so your head is right on the edge, and there would be no part of the pillow near the baby's head.
Of course, you will want to have a safe sleeping area to start with--no gaps between bed and wall, no fluffy blankets and pillows by baby, etc.
I coslept with both children.....still currently cosleeping with DD (18 mo). I am always cautious, and I never take cosleeping lightly. However, although there is a small danger with cosleeping, I found it much more frightening to sleep with the baby away from me. Not judging the crib people, but I personally could not handle having a newborn in a crib away from me!
Wait until you have the baby in your arms, and see what feels right to you. That is my best advice of all!