So, my 10 year old has gotten it in her head that she wants to be a model, which, while I don't agree with it, is fine enough... lately, though, it's gotten to the point where she says things like "It doesn't matter if I turn my homework in on time because I'm not going to college" even though I have assured her that even a successful model only has a good 10 or 15 year career at the most. I don't want to typify her as a lazy child, since most have a tendency to be, but it seems like the main problem is she doesn't really want to have to work hard at anything, if she's not naturally talented at something she writes it off. I have done my best to instill some sort of a work ethic in her, by paying her ample allowance for the few basic daily chores she's asked to do, which she rarely does willingly. She should know the value of money and the fact that you have to work for it, but I don't know where to go from here.
I don't want to crush her self-esteem by telling her to set her sights lower, but I have sugar coated everything as thinly as possible at this point. She does not hear reason, and it's a systemic problem that will set her up to fail if she doesn't understand that having a career is more than just getting paid for what you like to do/are good at doing. If she were still interested in school, I wouldn't be as worried, but she only wants to be a model, a singer, or an artist, all things you have to a) work at hard for little or no money to become succesful, and b) nothing you would go to college for anyway, so she sees no point in higher education. I am aware that her attitudes will change as she gets older, but if she slacks off now, she won't have the foundation or opportunities to access the education and resources she needs to succeed. She wants to go to a magnet middle school, so applications are due in 10 months for 6th grade, and they will be going off her 4th grade TAKS results as the testing standard. Her current school doesn't give grades so she's already at a disadvantage there. Basically, if I don't get her to care now, it's going to be a lot harder for her to get back on track in the future. The school she wants to go to only let in a handful of 7th and 8th graders since their 6th grade retention rate is so high. The public schools in the city we live in are overcrowded and lack even basic resources and we can't afford private school so she really needs to go to this school. She has never been in public school, and the culture shock alone would probably do enough damage by itself.