Is There A Way To Prevent A Thread From Being "Featured" on Facebook? - Page 9

[les_oiseau]

I appreciate that the subject was discussed, opinions were shared and a solution was found.......... I appreciate that all the threads to be shared on facebook are started by "Mothering", and I think it shows the administrators here are part of, and concerned about, the community.

I looked at a couple threads started by Mothering and saw several mamas posting there who had pictures of their kids as avatars, usernames that could be real names, and didn't look at the siggys but it's probable that some had their kids b'days in the siggys.......

I still think mothering.com has the responsibility of informing every user that threads started by Mothering may be posted on facebook.

Whether it is with something in the signature ( I think this is preferable because it would keep new members informed) or a pm sent to all members of this community, I feel that it is important to do so immediately!  As a lot of mamas have pictures of their kids, birthdays, real names displayed everytime they post and a lot of them would probably want to change that if they knew it was being posted to facebook.

I believe mothering.com has the right to re-post threads elsewhere, but PLEASE inform EVERY SINGLE MEMBER about this and how to identify which threads!!  It is not enough that only the members who read this thread know about it!!

[swede]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

I appreciate that the subject was discussed, opinions were shared and a solution was found.......... I appreciate that all the threads to be shared on facebook are started by "Mothering", and I think it shows the administrators here are part of, and concerned about, the community.

I looked at a couple threads started by Mothering and saw several mamas posting there who had pictures of their kids as avatars, usernames that could be real names, and didn't look at the siggys but it's probable that some had their kids b'days in the siggys.......

I still think mothering.com has the responsibility of informing every user that threads started by Mothering may be posted on facebook.

Whether it is with something in the signature ( I think this is preferable because it would keep new members informed) or a pm sent to all members of this community, I feel that it is important to do so immediately!  As a lot of mamas have pictures of their kids, birthdays, real names displayed everytime they post and a lot of them would probably want to change that if they knew it was being posted to facebook.

I believe mothering.com has the right to re-post threads elsewhere, but PLEASE inform EVERY SINGLE MEMBER about this and how to identify which threads!!  It is not enough that only the members who read this thread know about it!!

if people are really concerned about privacy, they shouldn't post their real names, or pictures of their kids.  I think some people are overreacting, without taking responsibility for their own actions.

[les_oiseau]

Originally Posted by swede 

if people are really concerned about privacy, they shouldn't post their real names, or pictures of their kids.  I think some people are overreacting, without taking responsibility for their own actions.

I agree people should not be sharing that information here. However, I do absolutely not think mothering.com has the right to repost such information, on moral grounds, without informing everyone.

[AdinaL]

Originally Posted by HappyHappyMommy 

I don't advocate a personal notification to everyone who has posted in a thread. I'm requesting that:

--every thread be highlighting the entire thread so anyone viewing or posting in a thread knows it's being posted on FB or twitter or whatnot.

--if possible, there be a setting that users can subscribe to that emails all subscribers if that thread going to be posted on FB or twitter or whatever.

I don't think that's unreasonable at all.

This is not really possible. We do not have the ability to color code posts featured on facebook. Also, we do not have a subscription setting that would let you automatically know if we share a thread. Programming-wise, this is not going to happen.

As I stated above, we are not using member threads at present. I think that given our ability to start treads by Mothering, we will not be featuring a thread unless it is outstanding, completely unique and so long that it wouldn't make sense to start the discussion again. I certainly do not plan to use anything other that Mothering created threads at this point. (And since I'm the one who shares the threads, that should put your mind at ease.)

Originally Posted by BarefootScientist 

Originally Posted by HollyBearsMom 

not true.  if you post on ANY thread you will need to consistently follow it because at any given time MDC may choose to use it by first asking the OP for permission. If the OP gives their OK it can be used on FB.

However based on what I am seeing re: "Mothering" posts- they are thinly veiled knock off's of other posts. So more than likely we won't see huge numbers of original posts in FB. Of course that is just my opinion.....

They said if they do this, they will post to the thread, so if you are subscribed, you will get a notification that the thread is being featured.

I do, however, agree that the Mothering username should get a title or signature or something indicating that these threads are featured on facebook, because those who are not following this thread may not know that.

I like the signature Idea.  I will bring that up to Cynthia, and we will see about getting that incorporated. :) Thanks for the helpful suggestion.
 

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

I agree people should not be sharing that information here. However, I do absolutely not think mothering.com has the right to repost such information, on moral grounds, without informing everyone.

So, what are you envisioning here? A mass PM? A site-wide announcement? Mass email? 

I do not believe we have the ability to either email or PM everyone. Many people have emails they no longer check or have opted not to receive PMs.  
 

[swede]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

I agree people should not be sharing that information here. However, I do absolutely not think mothering.com has the right to repost such information, on moral grounds, without informing everyone.

I think mothering has taken very appropriate steps.  I am a little surprised that they haven't just said, you don't like, then don't post here.  Noone is forcing you to post personal ifnormation (on a public site) while using identifiable descriptors.  People should know better.  We all have to be 18 or older to post here.  Post under an alias.  I dont' see the big deal, at this point, really.

My name isn't really swede.

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

I agree people should not be sharing that information here. However, I do absolutely not think mothering.com has the right to repost such information, on moral grounds, without informing everyone.

You mean like they do here?

By furnishing Postings, you give Huddler or MotheringDotCommunity the right to use such Postings in any manner and in any media now known or hereafter invented, including, without limitation, the right to combine your Postings with Postings of third parties in varied combinations. You also acknowledge that visitors to the sites may post comments about your Postings which may be derogatory, and that Huddler or MotheringDotCommunity has no obligation to monitor or delete any such postings.

[les_oiseau]

Originally Posted by AdinaL 

So, what are you envisioning here? A mass PM? A site-wide announcement? Mass email? 

I do not believe we have the ability to either email or PM everyone. Many people have emails they no longer check or have opted not to receive PMs.  
 

That's an idea although my first one was a signature indicating what the threads may be used for.  I think that would be more practical.

Of course it's in the user agreement. If it wasn't before it surely is now. And of course people shouldn't put personal information for everyone on here to see.  But just because someone has the "right" to do something doesn't mean they should.  If I made the careless mistake (that's what it would be for me, some people don't mind the info or pics being out there) of posting info about my family or pics of my kids on here, I would be ridiculoulsy grateful if mothering told me personally that info was now going to facebook.

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

That's an idea although my first one was a signature indicating what the threads may be used for.  I think that would be more practical.

Of course it's in the user agreement. If it wasn't before it surely is now. And of course people shouldn't put personal information for everyone on here to see.  But just because someone has the "right" to do something doesn't mean they should.  If I made the careless mistake (that's what it would be for me, some people don't mind the info or pics being out there) of posting info about my family or pics of my kids on here, I would be ridiculoulsy grateful if mothering told me personally that info was now going to facebook.

Honestly, and I say this gently, to me this is quite a naive view of how the internet works.... Anyone, any time can share things you post. I could start a website right now and share your user name, profile pics, previous posts, etc. (don't worry, obviously I won't!!) ANYONE can do that and I can guarantee you that less than 1% would notify you first. Someone could take a pic of your kids and use it as a billboard in Japan (something like this actually happened to someone....) NOTHING you post on the web is 100% safe and if something can be googled then chances are it will end up somewhere you'd rather it wouldn't be. It's just the way the web works -- and I'm not sure it WOULD work if everyone personally notified everyone else when they linked to your site or profile or post or whatever. I could see that ultimately leading to the collapse of the Internet.

I do agree with you that it couldn't hurt to at least have a signature for the Mothering user so that posts started by Mothering are more obvious with regard to intent. Individual users, however, need to be responsible for what they post and how they share information. I don't have a FB account (and hate FB as much as many of the others here do), but I am so careful with what I post here that I don't feel it's a risk to me. I am more annoyed that random friends & family share info/pics they took of me, my DS etc. on FB -- and that is completely their right, but them doing so is much more personally revealing than MDC highlighting threads that I may have anonymously posted in. There should be no illusion of true privacy when it comes to the web, IMO... Even private sites can be hacked.

[AdinaL]

Originally Posted by les_oiseau 

That's an idea although my first one was a signature indicating what the threads may be used for.  I think that would be more practical.

Of course it's in the user agreement. If it wasn't before it surely is now. And of course people shouldn't put personal information for everyone on here to see.  But just because someone has the "right" to do something doesn't mean they should.  If I made the careless mistake (that's what it would be for me, some people don't mind the info or pics being out there) of posting info about my family or pics of my kids on here, I would be ridiculoulsy grateful if mothering told me personally that info was now going to facebook.

The signature was placed on the Mothering user account last night.  Every post made by Mothering will have the warning that threads started by the Mothering user name may be featured on social media. 

[AFWife]

Going a different way...

What if we have ideas for threads to feature on Facebook?

[Drummer's Wife]

I think the announcement on the top of the screen looks great (and seems sufficient enough to me).

[annettemarie]

Originally Posted by AdinaL 

The signature was placed on the Mothering user account last night.  Every post made by Mothering will have the warning that threads started by the Mothering user name may be featured on social media. 

Thanks, Adina!

[AdinaL]

Originally Posted by AFWife 

Going a different way...

What if we have ideas for threads to feature on Facebook?

If you have something that you think would be of interest, PM me or Cynthia and let me know. We would love ideas for Question of the Day or other conversation starters.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by AdinaL 

Originally Posted by AFWife 

Going a different way...

What if we have ideas for threads to feature on Facebook?

If you have something that you think would be of interest, PM me or Cynthia and let me know. We would love ideas for Question of the Day or other conversation starters.

Be on the lookout! :)

[les_oiseau]

Originally Posted by AdinaL 

The signature was placed on the Mothering user account last night.  Every post made by Mothering will have the warning that threads started by the Mothering user name may be featured on social media. 

Thank you!!  It's so great to know you guys are so ready to listen to member's concerns!