or Connect
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Archives › Pregnancy and Birth Archives › Due Date Clubs 2009 - 2012 › May 2011 › help!! artificial rupture of membranes offered...what would you do?!
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

help!! artificial rupture of membranes offered...what would you do?! - Page 2

post #21 of 41

i agree with the warm shower suggestion... i took many while laboring with marah, it didn't slow things down but it definitely helped me go into a meditative state. i'm excited and totally stalking this thread!

post #22 of 41
Quote:
Originally Posted by ~Demeter~ View Post

Rye, let go Mama.... give into it and let her come, don't hold back. You can do it! Rock your hips and open yourself up. Thinking of you, honey... and wishing you a most joyous birth. heartbeat.gif


Yes this and um call your mw unless you are okay with a uc smile.gif


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
post #23 of 41
Thread Starter 

midwife just left...she gave us the labour smoothie ing and recipe...she says take it at 6 am if i don't hear from her (if she's at another birth). we don't have all the ing so we might have to wait until 8am to make it and take it but that's fine. she says i haven't really progressed since this afternoon and am still between 5 and 7 cm (she can definitely stretch it to 7 easily) and that the baby is still a bit high. i took a gravol and two tylenol and am going to bed...she says to get a really good night sleep in. she says normally they don't do the labour smoothie until 41 weeks but all i need is some good, regular ctx and she will be out. she says there is a good chance she will be born tomorrow if i do the smoothie, and if after 2 doses it doesn't work then she's not ready...if it starts to work though, they can break my water if i want and she will come. so i guess we'll see what tomorrow brings. 

 

ugh. i'm so glad i called her and she came. i was losing it a bit. 

post #24 of 41
Sleep well and I'm glad you called her too.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
post #25 of 41

I don't know what I would do but I am so sorry you are dealing with this.

 

I was considering asking to have mine stripped at 41+ weeks but now I think I've changed my mind....

post #26 of 41
Thread Starter 

i don't regret having them stripped em, really! it has been painful but i think it's been worth it...look at the progress i've made in a week. i only have 3 cm left to go. that's pretty awesome. derek just left to get the labour smoothie ingredients...i am totally grossed out. i don't want to drink it. barf. supposedly the almond butter will bind to the castor oil so i don't just have horrendous diarrhea. i dreamt all night about my midwife and hanging out with her.

 

and i slept.

oh. my. gosh did i sleep.

i woke up about an hour ago with menstrual-like cramping but went back to sleep. it's still really dull.

checking in with the midwife at 10. either today is the day or it isn't, pretty much.

it's insane to me that i could be holding my baby today. i know lots of people on here are really anti-induction but seriously...i don't want to do this for another week. or 2. or 3. 7 cm is not really fun to walk around with. she thinks the bag of water is keeping the baby off my cervix and if i do this drink it will start contractions...as soon as i feel 3 strong ones even if they are 8 minutes apart i am supposed to call her. i am also supposed to go back to bed after drinking it.

 

send elvs guys...we want this baby out!!!!!

keeping haye home from school, he doesn't want to miss the birth. 

please let today be it. 

 

 

my brother in law predicted last week it would be thursday.

then again he also wants me to sell my placenta to kenny from kenny vs. spenny so... ROTFLMAO.gif

post #27 of 41

Ooooh, exciting! I really hope the labor drink works! Hang in there and ELVs to you!!!

post #28 of 41

Farren sent me, too.  (; I was induced with 3 out of my 4 kids, and while induction wasn't horrible, I still longed for a labour where I wasn't induced (I got this with my 4th).  It sounds like things are happening - I know it's SOOOO hard to hang on when you are so uncomfortable, but reach way down deep for a little bit more strength.  You can do this!  Your baby is almost here, and things sound like they will be quick if you're already 7 cms - that is amazing, by the way.  A woman in our DDC was walking around at 5 cm, and her labour was less than an hour, so once things get started for you, I don't think it'll be long at all.  Good luck and ELVs!!!

post #29 of 41
Thread Starter 

thanks! i am not looking forward to the drink but what the hell. it's either today or it isn't, right? 

post #30 of 41
Thread Starter 

 

well i'm frustrated. i did the labour smoothie this morning at 8 and again at 12. besides making me feel horrible all day and clearing out my system, it hasn't done much. my midwife says if by 2:00 pm tomorrow it hasn't done a lot, then it won't. blah. oh well. i realize i still have a week to go but i am SEVEN FREAKING CENTIMETRES. WTF, BABY!?! who sits around for a week between 4 and 7 cm besides me?! ugh. i know this is just my body and how i do labour, and even though it isn't conventional obviously it is working. i just have to keep telling myself that. we walked in the park and at the fair and had a picnic for dinner and played soccer in the dog park and i was having some crazy contractions...of course as soon as i came home and laid down they dulled away. oh well. life goes on. she can't stay in there forever and they think it will be soon. we decided not to rupture membranes unless it was a really good idea, right now it just isn't. the midwife agreed with me. i see them again on wednesday (hopefully this doesn't go on THAT long) and they can stretch and sweep...again. i think that i have accepted the fact that i can't MAKE her come out (well i could, but i don't want to that badly) and that i'm not letting anybody down if she comes later than i'd like. i wanted to make everything work out and i think i just stressed myself out so much about it that i forced myself to not progress at all. so whatever. i'm done! i'm letting go. 

 

i'm still losing big chunks of mucous plug and having bloody show, but obviously that means nothing. mischievous.gif

post #31 of 41

so sorry, mama hug.gif i just know you'll be holding your baby very soon. hang in there, and connect in with your baby. its such good news that you are so far dilated. you won't have much more work to do once things get rolling. who knows, maybe you'll just come to an urge to push and then babe will be there!
 

Quote:
Originally Posted by ryleeee View Post

 

well i'm frustrated. i did the labour smoothie this morning at 8 and again at 12. besides making me feel horrible all day and clearing out my system, it hasn't done much. my midwife says if by 2:00 pm tomorrow it hasn't done a lot, then it won't. blah. oh well. i realize i still have a week to go but i am SEVEN FREAKING CENTIMETRES. WTF, BABY!?! who sits around for a week between 4 and 7 cm besides me?! ugh. i know this is just my body and how i do labour, and even though it isn't conventional obviously it is working. i just have to keep telling myself that. we walked in the park and at the fair and had a picnic for dinner and played soccer in the dog park and i was having some crazy contractions...of course as soon as i came home and laid down they dulled away. oh well. life goes on. she can't stay in there forever and they think it will be soon. we decided not to rupture membranes unless it was a really good idea, right now it just isn't. the midwife agreed with me. i see them again on wednesday (hopefully this doesn't go on THAT long) and they can stretch and sweep...again. i think that i have accepted the fact that i can't MAKE her come out (well i could, but i don't want to that badly) and that i'm not letting anybody down if she comes later than i'd like. i wanted to make everything work out and i think i just stressed myself out so much about it that i forced myself to not progress at all. so whatever. i'm done! i'm letting go. 

 

i'm still losing big chunks of mucous plug and having bloody show, but obviously that means nothing. mischievous.gif



 

post #32 of 41
Big hugs rylee! And you aren't alone on hanging out dilated...I'm not with this one but did with my 2nd...I was at least 5cm for a week before he came...it was a very easy labor too. And I've heard 2 stories from 2 different MW's of ladies who have hung out at 7, so you're not alone.
I hope that you can relax this evening and maybe just letting go will help you go into labor. Hugs!

Oh and you could try pumping/nipple stim and see if that brings it on.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
post #33 of 41
Thread Starter 

thank you :)

unfortunately i gave my breast pump away last summer on freecycle to a desperate sounding new mom and don't have the money to replace it.

 

but, i am feeling SO much more at peace about this all and cleared up a lot of anxiety with our parents over them being here at the same time. i was so stressed out trying to make it work so that they would be here at separate times because i knew they'd both be patronizing about it and be like "oh well we don't want to intrude, we'll just go home" ... which they both said tonight on the phone...after a complete breakdown and my husband calling them both back it's all been organized and worked out and we will all be in our house as one big happy family. THANK GOD. seriously. i was so stressed out...

 

feeling pretty crampy.

post #34 of 41
Quote:
Originally Posted by ryleeee View Post

thank you :)

unfortunately i gave my breast pump away last summer on freecycle to a desperate sounding new mom and don't have the money to replace it.

but, i am feeling SO much more at peace about this all and cleared up a lot of anxiety with our parents over them being here at the same time. i was so stressed out trying to make it work so that they would be here at separate times because i knew they'd both be patronizing about it and be like "oh well we don't want to intrude, we'll just go home" ... which they both said tonight on the phone...after a complete breakdown and my husband calling them both back it's all been organized and worked out and we will all be in our house as one big happy family. THANK GOD. seriously. i was so stressed out...

feeling pretty crampy.


Hopefully having figured all that out will bring on labor. Stress does strange things, maybe it was keeping your labor away.


Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
post #35 of 41

Woops, wrong thread, my bad.

post #36 of 41

This might sound too hippy dippy for you, but have you tried taking a relaxing shower or bath by candlelight and trying some light meditation? I did this when I was overdue and terribly uncomfortable, as a way to help calm my own nerves and stop myself from getting caught in that cycle of, "I want baby out!" and, "My baby wont' come out!" that can really easily exhaust and depress you.

I sat in the shower (to block out noise) and visualized reaching into my body and cradling my baby, saying things like, "I'm ready for you to come out, but I want you to be ready too. I trust you. I trust my body. I am uncomfortable and impatient, and that's okay."  Give those feelings room - they're valid!

 

(PS. hoping this doesn't come of as pushy, TOTALLY not my intention if it is!! Only to suggest a helper for if you're in need of some calming down time).

post #37 of 41
Thread Starter 

oh no, i am TOTALLY into that idea. we probably will sound a little bit more "hippy dippy" after you read this!! haha

 

i broke down last night in my husbands arms bawling about how i knew i didn't LET the labour smoothie work and how i was certain it was mostly because of how stressed out i have been that she is still hanging around in there totally comfortable. we are both firm believers in the connection of your mind to your body and i know my anxiety over our family and trying to make everything work to the best of everyone's schedules (which is totally ridiculous, by the way..and i KNOW that!) and trying to have the baby before my BIL leaves town sunday etc etc etc...it's all dumb. and i'm pretty over it. i am not 100% relaxed yet, but i'm trying to be. my husband pointed out that i am probably anxious and might have even caused myself to dilate further by thinking that it HAD to be time and happen because with haye i was induced at 38w 6d (for stupid reasons, but whatever) when i was 3-4 cm. 

 

 i'm just going to go on with my life and know that really, she is only 6 days off my EDD (which is 100% accurately lined up with my 30 day cycles, they predict the 24th but i say the 26th...the last ultrasound showed the 26th).

 

my blood pressure is 120/80, her heartrate is 145, she's head down and in an optimal birth position, her face is in a good spot, i think she moved her hand down, she's low, and most importantly,  she's healthy. so yes, i want her out. the selfish part of me wants her out NOW. but you're totally right...it has to be both our time. i'm trying to visualize that and understand it. 

 

thanks for the support, everyone. i'm really glad we didn't go with the membrane rupture. sometimes you just need to be talked off the edge, right? haha. i'm not saying it won't come down to that, but it hasn't happened yet and i don't see it in the near future.

post #38 of 41

I'm so glad to hear your husband is so supportive of you during this time. That's SO important and so awesome. :)

 

I can't lie, as much faith as I have in my baby's timing: I want her out. Not enough to do anything about it, but enough to sit in bed at night and cry because I'm in so much pain (I have a spinal disease and it's causing me a lot, A LOT, of pain right now as a result of baby's position. My mobility has been cut down to almost zip, even with the aide of a mobility device - I'm already disabled and this has effectively made me house-bound). My partner has been a total rock for me and said some of the most wonderful, supportive things. He helps me keep perspective: in the long run this is only a few more days or a few more weeks... and really? That's nothing by comparison to having a healthy, NORMAL labour and birth that is free of additional factors thrown in to complicate or intensify it. So I keep that in my mind when I'm feeling crappy. There really isn't *that* much time left, and I can hang on.

 

PS. We're due at the same time!! My conception date says 24th, early ultrasound said 26th. :)

post #39 of 41
Thread Starter 

awesome!!! that's exciting! i've been reading your posts on LJ (as you know) and have really been feeling for you with the pain...and the idiots you deal with on a day-to-day basis... mischievous.gif

and your hubby is awesome too! he sure is supportive. thank god i have derek, seriously...he has been a dream through this pregnancy, reading ina may and researching things. 10000% supportive and amazing, cleaning and watching haye, getting me anything i need...i don't know how women do it without supportive partners, honestly.

 

but yeah. i'm done. i just want her out too!! 

 

post #40 of 41

<3

 

I'm so excited for you to meet her, Rye. :)

New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: May 2011
Mothering › Mothering Forums › Archives › Pregnancy and Birth Archives › Due Date Clubs 2009 - 2012 › May 2011 › help!! artificial rupture of membranes offered...what would you do?!