Originally Posted by mamadiamond
i define "job" as a way to make money, but i define what i do as my "career"...the work that i devote my life to.
dh and i actually figured it out and to be able to aford childcare and the extra gas and lunches for me to work, i would have to work full time. if i worked part time it would cost us, and full time would just break even.
since i do see homemaking as my career, i do put conscious effort into managing the house well. if i can meal plan wisely, then my husband can be less stressed about money. part of my home career is making my own soap, cloth diapering, cooking from scratch, and doing whatever i can to maximize dh's paycheck and minimize his stress. and i tell him when i do something that saves us money like "man, making our laundry soap has saved us xx$ per month"...not to brag to him, but to let him know that i am thinking of him and putting in effort to keeping the family going. that way, when he thinks about me staying home, he thinks about the money he doesn't have to spend on disposable diapers, and the extra hours he won't have to work.
in our family i feel like i am doing a better job at homemaking when i am saving us money, even just a little bit, so that its as if i were being paid for staying home. cloth diapering, hang drying laundry, carefully doing laundry to save possiblly ruined clothes, making meals at home, keeping on top of the electricity usage, clipping and using coupons wisely, meal planning, bargain shopping. its the JOB part of my life. the rest, is my lifestyle. I also like to point out how much money we are saving each month because of my efforts. I also see it as my job to help keep us healthy, because if DH is unhealthy, he cant work as much.
I am currently collecting unemployment, but I dont see it as income, i still try to work just as hard as my husband, the unemployment income is just a bonus that is going to our debts, we live on his income. which isnt very much.
I dont feel like i am "working" more than 8 hours a day often, I do get to snuggle my baby and watch some tv shows, play games, and play with her. but the house is cleaned on a regular basis, we are fed somewhat healthily, the baby is cared for.
the only thing that bothers me about my job sometimes is not really having breaks, like my husband plays a computer game that he cannot pause. i dont get that luxury. I do get to take long hot showers or baths though, but i do so when i know the baby wont really need me much.