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post #21 of 37

Hi! I'm 39. I'm depending on the fact that despite all of the increased risks, chances are everything will be fine. I have a friend who just had a baby (HB) at 42, and everything was great. I will do the 20 week ultrasound, because it would be helpful to have an idea if something is wrong to be prepared (though those aren't foolproof!). I was pregnant with my son when I was 34-35 and that was no problem. I love how my MWs are very cool with this kind of thing and don't get bent out of shape about pretty much anything!

post #22 of 37

Hi L'lee!  I love hearing about people like your friend and you!  Thanks for sharing your positive experiences!

post #23 of 37
I'll be 38 when I deliver. We are doing the quad screening and the 20 week scan. After that we will see what happens...
post #24 of 37

Thanks montessorimama! I'm trying to stay positive because I think there's way too much (generally unwarranted) fear related to pregnancy and birth. 

post #25 of 37

I'll be 38 and was 35 with my last baby.  I have been an easy birther in the past and expect everything to go smoothly with this baby as well.  

 

I do have some nerves about getting pressured to induce.  My midwife/OB both started pushing for induction last time at 37 weeks and I had to fight them off.  I went on to deliver a 7 pound healthy baby naturally at 41 weeks.  I am so glad I resisted the induction.  

 

I have not been to the OB yet and when I do go, I am tempted to fudge the date of my last period.  Just to give me an extra week of breathing room at the end of the pregnancy.  I don't know.  

post #26 of 37

Hi all - i am 41 - had my last LO at 40.  I also have a DD who is 16 and a DS who is 13.  So far the worst thing about having a baby at this age was having to spend 4 hours at the DMV with my daughter who turned 16, and an 8 month old strapped to my back! 

Its been great being calm, knowing when to panic and when not to, knowing - REALLY understanding the phrase "this too, shall pass"    - I can remember so clearly when my older kids were this age...and in a blink of an eye - they were teenagers.  So i think i really can appreciate every moment with this new one...even the ones that drive me crazy! 

I had the 12 week 'quad screen' and  that was it as far as testing ...if that test had shown any abnormalities, i would have further tests, probably the CVS. 

post #27 of 37
I will be 39 when this babe is born...planning a home birth with a midwife, like my last two.

We will take testing as it comes, research each, and probably go with what is least invasive.

If I can offer any advice to moms...i would say, do yourself a favor and get lots and lots of exercise. Walk, do core exercises, yoga, swim, do weights, whatever you can...but get out there and move every day, even when you feel like crap. You will make a healthier baby and you will have a easier pregnancy and birth. The difference between my third and fourth child as far as pregnancy and birth went was night and day, thanks to exercise and diet. I think these become more essential as we age.
post #28 of 37

I'm 37. Assuming baby stays put until after my birthday (due a week after it) I'll be 38. I'm only planning an ultrasound at this point.  I was 35 when I had ds3.

post #29 of 37

You're not the oldest. I'm also 45, expecting my 5th and totally blown away by this pregnancy. I was so glad to see someone else in a similar situation. Good luck!

post #30 of 37
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You're not the oldest. I'm also 45, expecting my 5th and totally blown away by this pregnancy. I was so glad to see someone else in a similar situation. Good luck!



Glad to see you here. How are you feeling? How old are your other children?

post #31 of 37
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Glad to see you here. How are you feeling? How old are your other children?

 

Thanks. I'm feeling okay, some nausea and tired. I'm just glad for the symptoms Hopefully they're a sign that things are going well. We had the nuchal translucency test with my last pregnancy and we'll probably do that again, but probably not other tests unless there's a problem with that one. I refuse the quad screen because that one was way off with my oldest. Not really interested in the more invasive tests. My kids are 4, 6, 16, and 19. They're going to be very surprised.



 

post #32 of 37

Thinking about skipping the first semester screen. Or maybe just the u/s and not the blood test. 3/3 women I know in their 30s had huge scares from the blood tests only to do an amnio/CVS/wait it out to find out everything is aok. I'm not sure if the stress is worth it.

 

This will be my first babe and I'll be 36 by the time he/she comes. Those of you who have been there, done that, your thoughts?redface.gif

post #33 of 37
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Thinking about skipping the first semester screen. Or maybe just the u/s and not the blood test. 3/3 women I know in their 30s had huge scares from the blood tests only to do an amnio/CVS/wait it out to find out everything is aok. I'm not sure if the stress is worth it.

 

This will be my first babe and I'll be 36 by the time he/she comes. Those of you who have been there, done that, your thoughts?redface.gif


We've already got the nucal scan appt and I will be doing the bloodwork too.  I was torn about it, b/c I too know a number of women who were given a bad result on the first tri screen, so then went through the weeks of worry and took the extra risk of doing to amnio only to find that everything was fine.  I really really don't want to do any invasive tests (ie, the amnio), so in some ways it almost makes the first tri screening a moot point?  I don't know. But we did it last time (mostly b/c DH really wanted to) and since we had a good result it was very stress relieving. It was nice to see our LO swimming around in there and to hear that most likely everything was totally normal.  So I guess I'm doing it again mostly in hopes of having the same result again?  Although my odds/numbers will automatically be worse now, b/c of my age.  I will also be 36 when this one arrives. I was 33 last time.

 

Wow, I am so not helping you! sorry. Just venting my own confusion about it and sharing my experience.  I'm much more interested in the u/s part of it than the blood work to be honest.  If they tell me all looks good with the bean than I will be happy.

 

post #34 of 37

kismet, that was helpful. Glad to hear the first trimester screens went well for you. I had thyroid cancer in my 20s and I have to get all sorts of annoying tests every year. Most of the time, the information they get back from the tests is not, well, very informative. It's usually "suggestive," but rarely tells us one thing or another. I find the whole thing to be stressful. I don't know if I can handle it with this pregnancy. I meet with the MW on Tuesday to talk options. Wish me luck.

post #35 of 37

This is my 3rd pregnancy in my 30's. I didn't do anything special for the last 2 & I don't plan to this time, either. About the only concession I'm making is trying to get an ultrasound for earlier than 25 weeks. :lol Ideally, I'd like to have that out of the way by 18wks.

post #36 of 37

I'm 37 but will be 38 when the baby comes.  This will be my third child (#1 at 33yo and #2 at 34yo).  I'm not planning to do much testing.  Mostly the US and see what that says.  We are not finding out the gender.  I'm planning a VBA2C with a midwife this time and don't have maternity insurance.  I don't want to be paying a lot out of pocket for testing.  I'm so glad I won't be taking that damn GD syrup test this time.  Those gave me the worst migraines! 

 

Good to see some AMAs...LOL.  I'm due at the end of Jan early Feb.  I look forward to getting to know y'all better and enjoying my last pregnancy/birth/breastfeeding adventure.

 

Brandi

post #37 of 37

Hello everyone,

I am 56.  Now, before anyone starts looking through the Guiness Book of World Records, let me add that I am NOT pregnant and my youngest is 8.  I have two children in their twenties, both birthed by me.  My eight year old son is originally from Ethiopia.  My second husband and I adopted him in 2007--his first child, my third.  That would have put me around the age of 48 when he was born.  (We have subsequently divorced, so I am a single older mom.)

I thought I would add to this thread (I just joined Mothering.com today) to see if there are other older moms out there in their fifties with elementary school aged children AND to send a word of encouragement to those of you in your forties who are moms or soon-to-be moms of little ones.  I have been a stay at home mom for the past two years--a long story--and I have never felt happier and healthier in many respects.  Good genes help I'm sure; I've always been the robustly healthy type but I do think a lot of what one faces in later years rolls out according to our attitude and state of mind.  The hardest part?  The isolation.  Most friends think I have lost my marbles, staying home with an 8 year old; their kids are grown up and gone; and the women with children my age are, on average, a good 20-30 years my junior with a limited amount in common.  All that said, I believe I bring a lot of enthusiasm, maturity, and common sense to this newest round of parenting and I'm having a ball!

Ajoke (my nom de plume)

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