I don't have a great deal of time (typing while trying to nurse), so I'll just give a tiny bit of background and ask my question. My 20 month old daughter is extremely challenging and we are trying to use gentle parenting techniques but do not seem to get anywhere with her. It just seems that the more we try to be gentle and loving, the more she sees opportunities to test our resources and resourcefulness. I'm very frustrated and my husband has completely given up. I have to beg him to try to interact with her, especially when she's being difficult. She is our 7th toddler and my first was a challenge, but no where near this level. One quick example: I was cleaning in a bedroom and had to stop 7 times to redirect her because she kept coming in the bedroom. I needed to have the door open to shuttle things in and out and she kept running in like it was a game to get me to put her somewhere else. We've tried being firm, we've tried ignoring the behaviors we don't like and praising the ones that we do, we've tried holding and loving her when she's frustrated (only to get the snot banged out of us when she thrashes). I just don't remember my other children being at this level of activity and difficulty and would love some ideas on how to get her to behave a little better. My husband isn't the only one in our family and friend's circle who is shunning her because she's just 'too much.'