JUST DID IT!!!!!
However, I guess it isn't fair to say it was ONE ruthless purge since it was more like 2. We owned an 1800 sq ft house that was full - top to bottom, room to room, closet to closet, basement, attic, you name it. We threw out, donated, & sold everything we could think of and fit all of our stuff in one moving truck when we relocated to a new city.... and a 925 sq ft rental. When we got here, it all fit - but just barely. There were still boxes of "things" - and after about a month, I decided I JUST DIDN'T WANT THEM. DH doesn't care at all about my things or the kids - for his things, I asked that he pick some things that REALLY mattered to him, because if it wasn't on THE LIST, it was going.
I did the list space by space - i.e. What I wanted in Living Room, Kitchen, Utility closet, Bathroom, Bathroom2, Bedroom1, Bedroom2, Bedroom3, Balcony. If it wasn't on the list, it went. Anything worth less than $10, trash (we have use of the apt complex dumpster). Clothes & usable goods, donated (drove em to goodwill). Everything else placed in bedroom2, and called an Auction House to come get it. It's allllllll gone. My 925 sq ft apt is like a luxury house for me, DH, and our 35 m/o and 6 m/o. There's room to run, play, cook, sleep, & BREATHE. It's only been "empty" for 3 days now and it's been the best 3 days EVER. The best part is I haven't even had to do laundry this week! Because I know where all of our clothes are. I kept 10 sets for each kid, 10 sets for me, plus 3 dresses and some work out clothes (I am a runner). DH kept a few more because he's in Law Enforcement and has lots of uniform type apparel. I found a whole extra set of cloth diapers buried in a box. I donated 10 (yeah - TEN - after the initial purge when I donated fifteen!) garbage bags full of clothes. I started washing the dishes by hand after I got a crazy electric bill - and it doesn't overwhelm me because we only have 6 place settings!
I don't know exactly what was holding me "back" but I know moving gave me the opportunity and motivation to JUST do it. And now that it's gone, I'm relatively sure I never want to buy ANYTHING again.
TIP for negotiating with DH ... read him my post! LOL. My DH has been struggling with how stressed and sad I've been. I kept talking to him about doing this, and told him I felt the stuff was "costing" us more - in my sanity - than it was worth. He agreed that if it would TRULY improve my well-being, I could get rid of whatever. So far DH is thrilled with his decision.. because I'm some bouncy happy lady that came from who-knows-where, and we're doing things like enjoying coffee on the balcony and gasp - having sex. I knew he'd never miss the stuff once it was gone anyway. He was all worried about the "stuff" in the drawer in the table in the LR. When he opened it and actually FOUND the nail clippers he's always looking for (it's the only thing in there now), he was very pleased. It has given my DS SO SO SO much more room to play and be free - so much less power struggling.
Just wanted to say you CAN do it and it WILL feel every bit as good as you imagine!