Originally Posted by zora1112
Because of homeschooling. That's not right.
I don't personally have any children yet. Miscarried so taking a break. It's just hard to not over hear somethings when your out and about. i guess every state is different though.
I'm so sorry about your miscarriage! Having been through that experience, I know it's not fun.
But please don't let my stories scare you. CPS didn't come because we were homeschooling, but because my sister accused us of educational neglect. And while many homeschoolers do have to deal with concerned relatives who are worried about their children's educations and socialization, it's not all that common for those relatives to make a call to CPS. How involved CPS will get in educational neglect reports also highly varies from state to state. If you end up deciding to homeschool, you'll be able to find lots of information about educational requirements in your state and just make sure you're doing whatever you need to be doing to meet those requirements.
As far as the messy house report that was made on us, I was in a hurry earlier and neglected to add all the extenuating factors. We had been keeping chickens without bothering to get signatures from neighbors, because it's fairly common for people to keep chickens in our neighborhood, or to buy a live turkey or goose and keep it in their yard until they are going to use it in a meal.
Then one day, some city officials made a visit to our neighbor because he'd been buying old cars cheaply and taking them apart and selling the parts; he'd been doing it right out on the street and our street is not zoned for business.
So anyhow, the city officials noticed our free range chickens roaming around in our fenced-in yard and called animal control. And they came and just told dh that they had to take them; there wasn't even a chance to get into compliance because they said we should have been in compliance when we got them. The girls were crying and dh was very upset and started yelling. And someone felt like backup was needed and radioed the police.
One of the police officers felt very concerned when she looked through our open front door and noticed how messy our house was. Our girls had also been playing out in the dirt, digging in it and stuff, and were very dirty. And their hair hadn't been combed since the day before. She insisted that we were lying about them having been clean before they went out in the dirt that day, because she had children herself and they never got that dirty, so she felt sure that she was looking at several days of caked on dirt.
When the social worker came, she said she felt that the police officer was just overwhelmed by all the information she was taking in, about the chickens and so on. She determined that our home was a safe place for our girls, and that they were safe and there were no signs of abuse or neglect.
As you can see, these two situations are not exactly run of the mill or things that most families would need to be concerned about. Most people don't have such vindictive relatives, and there's not that much likelihood of a police officer being in your front yard on a day when your house just happens to be a total mess and your children just happens to be very dirty, and animal control just happens to be telling your very upset husband that he can't keep his birds.
And even if someone actually does make a report on you that CPS feels a need to look into (and for all I know, there could have been numerous other calls made on us by my vindictive sister that I know nothing about because no one ever felt any need to follow up on those calls), the most likely result is that a social worker will come and see that your children are safe, happy, and healthy and are not scared of you, and that social worker will tick off all the boxes that s/he needs to tick off and move on to a situation where some intervention is actually needed.