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Baby prefers to sleep nurse

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My daughter is 16 weeks old today, and we have faced a host of breastfeeding challenges.  She had a posterior tongue tie, which needed to be released twice, and I have an over active letdown reflex, so not the greatest combo.  She was nursing 15 x a day before her last release, which was at 11 weeks. Now I don't keep track, but it's definitely dropped to more "normal" frequencies. The latest curiosity in our BF relationship is her disinterest in nursing while she's actually awake.  I offer her the breast before naps, but she only really eats once a day while awake, just before her first nap.  Every once in a while if she's really tired she will nurse before her latest afternoon nap, and nurse all the way to sleep.  The other times I offer her the breast, she eats for maybe five minutes (max), pops off and starts cooing, giggling and stuffing her hands in her mouth. This is very cute, but kind of not the idea! I can feel my letdown, so I know she's getting milk (and she often has milk all over her face). Also, she is enormous! My breast never feels empty when she nurses awake, it's almost as of she just takes a snack.

 

DD has a tough time bridging the arousal gap between her sleep cycles, so I usually wear her or rock her to sleep, set her down and then return to nurse her back to sleep about 40 minutes into her nap.  Sometimes I do this twice to get a two hour nap out of her.  Again, I can feel my letdown, and hear her swallowing.  She nurses for much longer, maybe ten to twenty minutes, and then ends with a few minutes of fluttering, during which she's not really eating (unless of course I have another letdown).  This preference for sleep nursing results is a very long bedtime ritual.  I wear her to sleep in the moby, let her take the 40 minute sleep cycle, then nurse on both sides side-lying, and then sneak out of the bed.  This takes about an hour and ten minutes. 

 

I am ok with this, but I'm a little concerned and was just wondering if any one else has encountered this.  I think nursing may have been tough for her bc of her tt, and so she coped by zoning out and nursing in her sleep.  Also, she obviously took quite a while at the breast before her tt release, and she often fell asleep before she was really full. So, basically we have established a proud tradition of sleeping at the breast.

 

I was thinking of starting to give her two bottles a day (expressed milk) before or between naps to see if I could get her to take more milk while she's awake.  Any opinions on that idea?  DD just started being able to drink from a bottle (before her tt release, the flow was too aggressive, and I felt like we were stressing her out, so I only offered her the breast). I notice on days when we are traveling in planes or on long car trips that my breasts feel engorged bc she's not able to sleep nurse as frequently as she is at home.  This summer we will be in the car every weekend to escape the city, and I want to be sure she's getting enough to eat!  I also hope (perhaps in vain!) that she might have fewer night wakings if she takes in more calories during the day.  Anyway, I'd love to hear what people think.  TIA!

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You know, at 4 months I realized with a panic that DS was not eating as often during the day, and I was reminded by a good friend and LLL leader that this is normal :)

 

If baby is gaining weight well and peeing well (see Kellymom) then I would not change anything. You can offer more in the day, but if she is like my little one, she will refuse if she isn't hungry and continue to nurse when it suits her. I would not give a bottle - I would want to have baby at the breast whenever possible to maintain my supply and also to encourage proper nursing after the TT release.

 

Also, remember that 4 months is a classic time for sleep regression, so it is likely that baby will not sleep more no matter what you do.

 

Hang in there, Mama. It does get easier as they get older (IMO). And nursing to sleep is biologically normal, so don't let anyone give you any flak for it! You two have amazingly overcome difficult challenges - congratulations and best wishes for the rest of your breastfeeding journey!

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My DD was a 23hr a day nurser until 9 m/o lol I swear she was always on the boob! Now she is 19 m/o and still nurses like 7-12x a day some times she STTN...and still nursing to sleep

 

If it is any consolation I know many babes that were FF and are now weaned from formula and 2 y/o and still not STTN so don't worry it is simply biological and IMO has nothing to do with nursing!

 

I would watch her weight and try to get her to nurse more during the day(that would make me nervous too)...are you using a paci? That may be hindering her nursing...

 

Take this from experience: Do not let naps take over you life! I have so BTDT!

 

CONGRATULATIONS!

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Thanks for the input! I'm a nurse & so I'm definitely always monitoring those diapers. PatioGardener, it makes me feel better that your baby did something similar & I'll take your advice and continue to leave bottle-feeding for later- or never! DD seems to be thriving & happy, so I guess we'll just stick with what works best for her.

SoSurreal, DD does use a paci (albeit infrequently). I'm thinking taking the paci out of the equation is a good idea. I tested letting her wake up from her naps today & she wasn't crabby or overtired at bedtime, so thanks for bringing that up! We only had to add one nap, and that's no big deal. I think I even got an extra daytime feed out of her this way.

Enjoy your Sundays and thanks, again!
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I agree that it sounds normal. They get pretty efficient at that age, and if you have a fast letdown and lots of milk, they can fill their belly in 5 minutes or even less.


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