But how do you deal with a spouse who is home ALL. DAY. LONG????
At first it was fun. It was nice to get a bit of a break from being solely in charge of DS's care. It was nice having company during the day. It was nice being able to get my WAH work done without worrying whether DS would sleep long enough for me to get my hours in.
Now, it's just annoying. Either DH is doing his own thing, and I'm resentful that he's not helping out when he has nothing else to do anyway, or he's taking care of DS, and I'm resentful that I'm a SAHM but feel useless since DS has DH.
And just being around each other day in & day out... we're getting on each other's nerves.
I do leave the house a ton. DS and I often go out for most of the day (playdates, library, etc.) DH really doesn't leave the house, unless he has an interview or something. He has no friends of his own, no real hobbies, is a real homebody. There are tons of little (and big!) projects that need to be done around the house, but they aren't getting done... I've encouraged him to go job search at the library, or attend morning services at our church, or do XYZ, but he isn't really interested. I don't know, I'm just frustrated.
I miss DS & I having the house to ourselves all day. I miss having a consistent & predictable flow to our days, I miss getting out of the house quickly (don't ask me WHY having an extra adult to help DS get ready somehow makes it take twice as long!!) I miss going out & doing things without worrying that DH is home bored and lonely or feeling guilty that I didn't invite him...
I know this is just as hard on DH (maybe harder) and he misses working etc. but still... I guess just wanted to hear from anyone else who's BTDT... I hate letting my little annoyances get the best of me, especially when I know this isn't easy for him.