I know I'm a little late but I have some info too...
Both of my DDs were fussy about sleep. They had to be held ALL the time. I could never put them down. ever. if they were asleep they would wake up within 5 min and if they were awake they would scream and freak out. And it had to be me holding them, no one else would do. But as long as I held them or had them in the sling they were pretty good and mellow. I felt like I couldn't do anything other than sit and hold the baby for months. I think that lasted until they were 2 or 3 months old and it didn't get better over night.
Back then i would not consider giving them a binky or using a baby swing (aka "the neglect-o-matic"... LOL!!!!) and i didn't know about swaddling. However now that i have 3 older kids to take care of i just can't sit with the baby all day. Lucas is 4 weks old and he is an easy baby. Not b/c he's any different than the other 2, but because i know better now!
during the day i nurse him to sleep and once he's out I put him in his swing and he will sleep there for a couple hours sometimes, whereas if I put him in the bed he will only sleep for a max of 20 min if I'm really really lucky. I still don't like the swing, but it really is a good thing for us. I can put him in the swing while we eat dinner and he will usually hang out in there through the whole meal awake and happy as long as i nurse him first. But sometimes I still like to just sit and hold him while he sleeps... like right now. :)
-Here's something I read in a book when DD1 was a baby (i think it was a Dr. Sears book)... to test if the baby is all the way asleep and "ready" to be put down pick up their arm and drop it it. if they startle or react at all it's not time yet! The baby should not react at all and the arm should just fall limp and then you can put them down. This worked really well for me. It usually took about 20 -30 min after the baby would fall asleep for her to be ready to put down.
-Another helpful tip I read in a book is that when you put them down to stay with them and breathe on the top of their head for a minute. I read it in "The No Cry Sleep Solution For Toddlers" (this book was like a miracle for us! There's one for babies too and I highly recommend it!) and I don't remember why it helps, but it really does. I do it to my 6 yr old sometimes and it still works to help her fall asleep. I think it's something about the warmth from your breath and the rythym of your breathing.
sometimes he doesn't want to nurse but he wants to suck, or he's nursed enough that there's nothing left and he gets mad and that's where the pacifier comes in. I still have mixed feelings about it, but it does make things those times and things like riding in the car or grocery shopping much easier. As much as I don't like the binky I also know babies need to suck, it's a reflex and they like to do it even when they are not hungry. I also give him my pinky to suck, but the pacifier is better for when I'm not holding him.
swaddling is great! I can't swaddle him if he's awake... he hates it. I really only do it at night when we go to bed. I put the swaddler down where he will be sleeping so I don't have to try to move him again and lay him in it. If he's asleep already I wrap him up and he'll usually sleep through that and stay asleep for a while. If he's awake I lay him in the swaddler, side-lying nurse him to sleep, breathe on his head until I can sit up without him stirring, then I wrap him up. If he's swaddled he will usually only wake up 2 or 3 times in the night. I got one of those swaddler things with the velcro that looks like a baby straight jacket and it works great. In fact, I had DP go buy more, I think we have 5, because I like them so much!
side lying nursing and co-sleeping are key for my kids. All of them have been good night time sleepers and I chalk that up to these two things. Since they're right there with me and usually already in a good position for side lying nursing they would hardly even wake up, just fuss and root a little. All I had/ have to do is pop the boob in their mouth and we fall back to sleep. It takes practice to master side-lying nursing, but it is totally worth it. And for the record, it is hard to do with smaller boobs! This is probably the only time it's easier to nurse with big boobs b/c the bed holds the boob in place for you. :)
And I also don't know any babies who can be put down awake and just fall asleep. My nephew is a year old and he can do that, but he has to be very sleepy and my Brother and SIL did "cry it out" with him to get him that way. poor nephew. :(