I would like to join you ladies. When I first heard the words voluntary simplicity & minimilism they resonated with me right away. I began to read message boards, books & magazines to find out more. Then began to act on what I read. A decade later, I consider myself aspiring still because I know I am not where I want to be yet. Working slowly making changes that hopefully will last. Not just about stuff - although after this 2011/2011 challenge I realize I may be actually reach where I want to be with decluttering - but also about time & how I want to spend my life. I may even count my things just for fun.
Mom to 3 and wife to dh of 16 years. He doesn't think like I do, but I can see that changing some. I respect what so many of you have said about not imposing what I want on the others in my family, but at the same time I need them to not impose on me either. Must find balance with this. We have a small (for our area) 1200 sq ft home. Living here is 2 kids, 2 adults, 2 dogs. Dh works at home. Oldest child moved out about 6mo ago. At that time, the 2 younger ones were able to have their own room for the first time. Must admit, I am glad that they have there own space now. Not a necessity, but it is nice for both me & them.
Dh is disorganized by nature and doesn't tend to declutter anything. Luckily he has the office & garage to contain his overflow of things.That keeps me from feeling suffocated. Maybe someday he will change, if not - well that is okay too. I am learning slowly that it is still possible for me to be a minimilist even though some in my family are not. Plus, most of the community part of the house is up to me. Thotchkes are not my thing. Dh also prefers the minimal amount of furniture, that helps.
I remember when it was just my dh, dc1, and me living in a 2br 2nd floor apt. Plenty of space & easy to care for. We used to go to the park, walks, entertain etc... so much fun! So many years later I realize that my list of chores daily on top of working prn on top of volunteer activities keep me with a check list of to do's each day that parks, walks, and entertaining are sometimes feel more a burden than I would like.
I see that I need to continue to minimize the household so that I can feel lighter, than I need work on simplifying my day so that there is more free time in my life to feel more spontaneous with the kids/dh. Hmmm.....need to continue to ponder that. How do you all accomplish that?
I look forward to reading and learning from you. Helps to keep me grounded and focuses.