Hello, I'm Erin and new to the boards- also new to homebirthing and unassisted birthing! After my experience birthing DS in a hospital, DH and I both agree on home birth. He would prefer to have a MW there for "just in case". I, on the other hand, want it to be a very private event and don't want anyone there except me, DH, and DS.
DH is "on board" with UC because I've voiced my concerns and preferences to him, and the reasons behind them. I've made it very clear that I'll be more comfortable (and therefore have an easier/better birth experience) if there is no one there pestering me! So he understands. What he doesn't understand is that I need HIM to be my MW, for all intents and purposes :P I need him to be just as educated as I am on the birth process and emergency situations and everything in between. I need him to know that this is a NORMAL process and keep himself calm, so he can help me stay calm. If he's nervous or stressed, it's going to affect me- I don't want that. But he doesn't quite get it. I think he figures he can just step in during labor and play super man.... but he won't now what's going on! I'm sure all would be fine... but at least just for my peace of mind and comfort, I need him 100% on board and willing to get involved before the baby comes.