I have a week old baby and a bed sharing 3 year old. Right now the baby and i are sleeping in the living room on the couch and are about to get a twin mattress to put on the floor of bedroom #2 in lieu of the couch. My husband has been sleeping with my 3 year old ( I nurse a little to bed and then if he is not asleep my husband snuggles him to sleep), however my son misses me tremendously in bed crying out several times throughout the night "i want mommy." I can hear this from the living room (we are in a small 1000 sq ft condo) and it breaks my heart but usually i am either nursing the newborn or too tired to be able to respond. I did go in last night and he fell back to sleep quickly while i snuggled with him.
I have tried bringing baby into the bedroom for us all to sleep together but am worried her sounds will wake my not so great sleeper 3 yr old ( we have a queen next to twin on floor so there is enough room for all of us and my son is on the twin with hubby next to him and me on the end). I also have terrible night time vision and am not able to latch her in bed in the dark ( when my 3 yr old was born we slept with a light on and my husband wore an eye mask). Finally i am also worried about nighttime parenting burnout leaving me very tired and cranky during the day.
If any one has any suggestions i would appreciate them. Does it make sense to just leave my husband in the bedroom with my 3 year old and sleep separately from them for a month or two until the newborn starts giving me a longer stretch at night? Any experience with the newborn waking or not waking an older child by crying/grunting/groaning?
I am thinking of trying to sleep in the bedroom tonight to see what will happen...maybe things will work out better than expected...