There is someone on my local playgroup/expecting board. Anyway, her dh is quite controlling. She is pregnant and they have decided to divorce. She will be staying with him until the baby is born, but from the hospital will go to a shelter and he will be taking the baby. She does not have any money for legal bills or to even support the baby. She is a SAHM (so she will be leaving from the other children too). I called the shelter myself (I used to volunteer there) but already knew the answer which was that she could go to legal aid and they would point her in that direction, but that legal aid does not do divorces.
She won't be seeing the baby again once born. Her husband's family is wealthy. She said she can legally still name the baby, but since she won't be seeing the baby again, she is not going to. With no lawyer at all, and with her going to live in a shelter and trying to build a life, and no way to pay for anything, she is on her own she says. Apparently, she tried to leave him before but could not pay the rent with their 2 children and had been on waiting list for housing assistance until she gave up and went back to him. So she says she already knows there is nothing she can do. She says she has researched it and this is how it is. She is not asking for help at all. She has given up.
This seems so wrong. It makes sense, from what I know of Texas, that she would not be able to get some sort of social program to help her. But does anyone know anything about this? I know she has legal rights, but only as far as she can pay a lawyer to get those rights for her. Are there any links that will actually help and not further frustrate her? She has completely given up and accepted that her baby is essentually as if she is going up for adoption, since she won't hold or see her baby once her baby is born. Her husband is planning to get a court order for custody as soon as the baby is born and she does not have money to contest it. Both cars and their house are in his name so she cannot even just take a car. Since she has no job or money (bank accounts in his name too) she would not be able to maintain a car. I think she would have the legal right to stuff, but from talking to Friends of the Family (a local shelter here) she would need a lawyer to get her rights, which brings us back to where she does not have a penny to her name.
Does anyone know anything about this? I don't know her well other than that she lives in an upscale area and her family comes off as being so great, even her husband seems fine. But I guess this is what is going on inside. Her husband is always very quiet when I see him, but I have only visited her a couple times.