i have to vent here b/c i can't IRL so .... it drives me crazy that MIL gets upset that my son prefers my mom to her.
my mom makes a point of coming to our home once a week for a few hours to interact with / play with our son so he's familiar with her and now that he's a bit older (he's 15 months) he "knows" her and warms up very quickly to her or doesn't need to warm up at all.
MIL on the other hand doesn't do anything to ensure she sees him on a regular basis. 99% of the time, it's us bringing DS over to her house. we probably do this once a month. she knows she is welcome to come over to our place, and there are no limitations on her part (i.e. she drives fine, has no health / financial issues) keeping her from coming over.
both grandmas live about 20 minutes away and both are retired so it's not like it's a big drive or inconvienent or anything.
without fail, if we bring him over to her place, it takes him a good 20-30 minutes to warm up to her, and even then, he's still not willing to let her hold him, he's just interested in interacting with her like handing her stuffed animals or whatever. she's remarking all the time about how shy he is on how he should know grandma, etc etc.
but, what really gets it is when we have them in the same room and she'll notice that DS will run up to my mom and do things with her faster than with MIL. she won't say anything then, but will make a comment to DH about it later.
so, sorry, i need to shout it on the interwebs b/c i can't irl .... IT'S BECAUSE HE KNOWS HER BETTER BECAUSE SHE'S WILLING TO PUT THE TIME IN TO MAKE IT LIKE THAT!
and, yes, i know that we could go over to her house more often, but, seriously, we can't. it's a nightmare at her house. she leaves her open prescription pill bottles on her coffee table in easy reach of DS, has dozens of "that can't be touched" knicknacks all over the place at toddler eye level and has all sorts of other things that i need to constantly worry over to make sure DS isn't injured on or me grossed out over, like she has an open litter box right off the living room which she doesn't clean as often as she should and DS is always wanting to run to it and pick up cat turds.