My first husband was killed in a car accident in the first year of our marriage. Five years later I re-married and had 2 beautiful children. My oldest is 8 now and we ( I ) have not yet told him or my youngest about my first husband. It is such a large part of my life and most of our friends know my past. My fear was that they would worry about my husband or myself dying in an accident if I told them too young, but I don't know what the appropriate age is...and how to tell him before he hears through friends or in conversation or finds photographs that are stowed away.
It would be great to hear from the expert or someone who had a similar experience. Thank you.