I'm not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I hope you can at least point me in the right direction. I am desperate! I am the mother of a three and a half-month old boy. He is the first grandchild on my husband's side and my in-laws live about ten minutes from us and want to be very involved in my son's life. A few weeks ago, while changing my son's diaper, he laughed when I was wiping off his bottom. My mother-in-law, who works in the infant room of a daycare, said that one of the baby girls she works with always laughs when her diaper gets changed too, and then commented that the baby at work was "so horny." This statement really bothered me. I mentioned it to my husband, who agreed that it was strange, but we didn't take the conversation beyond that. I also told my mom, who was disturbed by my mother-in-laws statement. She ended up talking to my brother-in-law, the director of a small school, who said that her statement was inappropriate, showed that my mother-in-law has a warped view of children's sexuality, and that if any of his employees made a comment like that, the person would be fired on the spot. They are urging me not to leave my son alone with my mother-in-law based on this statement. To make matters worse, my brother-in-law was arrested last year on two felony charges; one of indecent exposure to a child, and one fondling charge. He is currently in jail awaiting trial. In my heart, I feel that my brother-in-law is guilty, and my husband and I have no plans to allow him around our son beyond the rare, supervised, family function. I know that molestation can be a learned behavior, but until my mother-in-law made this comment, I never felt uncomfortable having her around my son. I have not noticed anything inappropriate in the way she interacts with him or any other children. Adding to my stress is the fact that my husband and I have been arguing recently about me going back to work. He wants me to go back to work part-time in the fall and leave my son with his mother; I want to stay home full-time and take care of my son myself. I don't want to leave my son with someone who might harm him; on the other hand, I don't want to cause stress for my family by telling my husband his mom can't be alone with our son based on one bizarre statement. I guess my question is, am I making too much out of my mother-in-laws statement, or do I have genuine reason to be concerned about leaving my son in her care? And if I do, what is the best way to approach this issue with my husband?