So while there may be male and female as far as sex is concerned, sure there are differences between men and women, but they are subjective and actually represent a spectrum. Even if at first glance you think you can identify someone firmly either/or you may have re evaluate in a different setting.
For me, here is the question though, relative to some of the comments previous to yours. Your username is "HeliMom". My assumption is that is some combo of something that has meaning to you, and that you are likely a "Mom"...... implying that you are female. And, that if in conversation there was the need to use a pronoun, the basic construct of English is that "she" would be used, right?
Would it offend you for me to make those assumptions, based on the first standard cues a person gets, and use what you might consider to be the wrong pronouns?
I guess as I have read this thread, I just don't necessarily get what a person is really supposed to do given the constraints of the basic English language.
To me, and maybe this is just very backward of me, it would seem more odd of me to say hello, introduce myself, learn what your name was, then ask you what gender identifying, or non identifying, pronouns you'd like me to use within our conversation. It seems more realistic to hear a name, take a stab at the correct pronoun, and respect a correction to it.
It seems like such a jump to say that people who don't figure out all the possible variations and correct language to use that is completely gender neutral and right on for all the variations, is essentially out to marginalize the community of people who don't gender identify as male or female.
Isn't there any leeway to at least let people get through "Hi" and "Nice to meet you"..... before someone is supposed to ask how a person gender identifies?