I'm really hoping someone has some advice here...I'm starting to get so angry every night I can feel rage pulsing through me from frustration.
Since Jax (now 12.5 months) was born, we've swaddled him and bounced him to sleep.
He's never been a good sleeper (to say the least) and he's always really fought falling asleep...but the swaddle and the bouncing and some lullabye singing has been able to override his ability to fight sleep.
That seems to all be changing...like in the course of a week or two.
He started fighting the swaddle, which is fine, I figured he'd let me know when he was done with that...he did.
But now, when I cradle him to start bouncing, he fights and kicks and screams. If I hold him through that he'll relax again, but will NOT fall asleep. It's almost like he gets really close, then wants to turn over to get comfortable, can't, and get's pissed and we start the 20 minute process of fighting being held, calming down, relaxing, almost asleep, then pissed off again. I can not bounce him that long anymore!!
So, I figure we'd bounce him till really drowsy, then lie down in bed with him (he sleeps with us in our bed). But, as soon as we do that, he wants to nurse..which would be fine, except he just sucks for a second, turns over lays there for 5 seconds, turns back over, latches on for 2 seconds, turns over lays there for 5 seconds and does this over and over, until he is well awake and then he sits up. I try and lay him back down with me over and over and tell him it's bed time, but after about 25 times, he starts to get really frustrated and all worked up, then he's in a fit. It doesn't feel good (for either of us i'm sure) to have him hysterical. He can't calm himself down on his own. So then I try and bounce him again, and we start the whole process over again. It's so frustrating! Eventually, maybe an hour and a half later, somewhere during this process he falls asleep. This can't be the best way to put him to sleep. I leave the room after he falls asleep so frustrated and angry and worked up...but I literally don't have a clue what to do, or how to do anything different. I have no problem parenting him to sleep, but this is not a relaxing pleasant experience for either of us. And 1 full hour or more AFTER all our bedtime routine stuff (bath, nurse, book) just seems crazy! And the bouncing...I just don't feel like I can take the bouncing anymore!
Does anyone have any suggestions?
The good news, is that once he falls asleep, he has miraculously been staying asleep well...for about three hours before his first night waking. And then it's just 10 minutes of laying with him and nursing and he's right back asleep for another three hours. So...that's amazing progress in terms of his sleep...and it tells me that it's not some development milestone or teething or something that's bothering him...since he's the best he's ever been the rest of the night.
Oh - we've tried all different bed times too...we were pretty regular at around 7:30 or so when this all started, and we've tried 15 minute intervals later and later, thinking...he just must not be tired yet, but that doesn't seem to make a difference. Last night we didn't start the process till about 8:30...and had the same results.
I'm really at a loss as to how to put him to sleep...any help would be so much appreciated!