Originally Posted by lynnesg
America is full of the most generous people to be found. We take care of our poor and needy more than any other country in the world. Is childcare too expensive? Yes. Is healthcare ungodly expensive? Yes. Those are the issues at hand that need addressing. I hate seeing mothers who have kid after kid and then complain that we aren't providing enough for them. You are getting all the amentities one needs as well as your children and yet you belittle me because I want to see you get off the lifetime support? And I look like the bad guy because I have the gall to say what everyone else thinks and will not say.
actually, everyone else doesn't think this.
When I was a single mom of 1 I worked full time, went to school full time, and didn't qualify for anything. My job provided health insurance and I budgeted carefully for food. I lived with my parents, but it was not at all a piece of cake in any way, and I paid market level rent, utilities, car insurance, phone, etc. In fact, I bought groceries for everyone in the house. My ds was always -ALWAYS- dressed in designer clothes and people often though I MUST be getting assistance and spending it on brand name clothes. Actually, I shopped thrift stores and used a lot of oxyclean to make them look new. lol. When he outgrew them, I would carefully wash and press them and then sell them on ebay or to local consignment stores or on craigslist. I never bought myself anything, I didn't go out, and I rarely had much money left over from one month to the next. I didn't get a dime of assistance, or child support. Eventually I discovered that medicaid would pick up my ds' copays from my insurance, and that was nice.
But the fact that I didn't qualify for anything, in spite of living so close financially, didn't make me think that my friends who had more kids and better jobs and still qualified for assistance, were a cancer on society or any other such nonsense. I just thought, "well, gee, that sucks for me, but it's good for them." And moved on. That is a dangerous level of jealousy and pettiness, to begrudge someone the very minimal assistance that the government provides.
And a year later, when I found myself in a domestic violence shelter, eating food that other people provided and wearing clothes other people gave me, using donated bus vouchers to go look for work, I was very grateful that the assistance issue was one aspect of my life I didn't have to eat crow about.
Oh---and America is not full of "the most generous people to be found." It is full of the most pretentious, "let me give you this in public so everyone can shake my hand and pat my back" show offs to be found. Just to clarify. Why do you think so many big businesses advertise about their fablous charity programs while their CEO's are paying the people at the bottom sometimes 1% of what the people at the top are making? That's not generosity. It's all about the marketing and the money. Yes, there are good, wonderful people out there, in every country, this one included. But Americans are not innately more generous. They just like everyone to know when they are.