Yes. If someone steals a loaf of bread from the store because they are starving, that's looked on very differently than someone with plenty to eat that stole it just for fun.
I really, truly don't mean to twist things around. Honestly, for some reason I have a hard time deciphering your posts, something about the syntax just doesn't quite make sense to me, almost like reading a second language, so I do the best I can. I apologize if I've misinterpreted what you've said.
OK but what if someone does lose their job, and then decides to be a SAHM because financially it doesn't make sense for her to look for a new job since the economy took a nose-dive? Maybe she made decent money or had great benefits as a long-term employee and no new jobs have comparable wages or benefits to make up for how much she'd have to pay in daycare, transportation, etc.
This kind of happened to me. I was working as a waitress when I found out I was pregnant with DD, and I worked up until the last month or so, and returned to work again after 6 weeks. I hated being a waitress, especially since I had completed my degree and wanted to get on with my career search, but I realized that providing for my family was more important than my career aspirations. I worked lunch shift and my DH worked afternoon/evenings. Luckily we had the same 2 days off together. It sucked for our relationship, but it was what we had to do in order to ensure that WE raised DD (not that we could have afforded daycare anyhow, but still.)
But then when my DD was about a year old I was fired out of the blue and went on unemployment for 6 months. Ultimately I decided not to stay at home 100% of the time, but found a part-time job working in a local elementary school. Because it is just a part-time (less than part-time, actually) job I am still eligible for partial unemployment and that has helped us bridge the gap until my annual 5% raises start to add up. DH has also had a raise during this time, which will help when the unemployment benefits end in a few months.
So my story isn't EXACTLY as you have described, but similar in that we have decided that I will not go back to looking for full-time work until both of our children are in school full-time. It just wouldn't make sense, financially, because most of the extra income would be going to childcare. That means at least another 4-5 years of working part-time. Although we don't receive TANF or food stamps, we do get WIC and live in public housing.