Next weekend my kids and I are moving into my BF's house. I'm thrilled and excited and nervous all wrapped into one.
Funny how full circle I've come since I first joined here... I first found MDC as a new Stepmom and started out here in this forum.
Then found the TTC boards, and moved onto the DDC for my DD. Found amazing support in PaP, Surviving Abuse, and Single Parenthood while I was pregnant with DS and finally got out of the worst relationship of my life with the kid's father more than a year ago.
Around Christmas I met the most amazing guy. He is the nicest person I have ever met. We clique on every level. He is amazing with the kids. He actually talks to them and plays with them. It tears me up everytime watching him bond with them and how good he is to them and to me. I have never been treated with such respect and love. I cannot begin to explain how refreshing and amazing it is to TALK with someone, even the nitty gritty of finances/moving/kids/what role to play in parenting etc... and that person doesn't blow up and call you names!!! Instead, my wonderful BF acts as a person should... he listens with an open heart, he gives me feedback, he respects me and my opinions and we listen and support each other.
I'm happy. I feel really good about myself, and I feel empowered and like I can do anything. BF supports me and my dreams, and I do the same for him. I get to show my children what a healthy relationship is, and it thrills me so much that we are finally able to leave my parents and their dysfunctional model, and go live our happy and safe life. :D
I know it's going to be challenging in it's own way. And as my BF says, "not everyday will be blueberry waffles and butterflies", but we love and respect each other and we both have cautiously built an amazing foundation on respect and open communication.
So yeah.... we are blending. lol :D I had to share this somewhere. I don't know where I'd be today without all the amazing support and love I have received over the years from MDC Mamas. :D