I need advice on how I can get my parents to listen to me and realize I am mom, not them. I am having spinal surgery at the end of June and my parents are going to be watching my daughter reluctantly (Dr had to explain I will be paralyzed if i don't have surgery so they feel forced). Anyway I am not close with them at all so each weekend I have been going to their house so my daughter is comfortable with staying there for awhile. They love her and she loves them so that is not an issue however they insist on spoon feeding her baby food. She has been eating table food for a year now. I try to stay calm and explain to them but they refuse to listen almost seems i am not even speaking to them. Last weekend I put a few pieces of ham on my daughters highchair. My mom ran over grabbed it off and said what are you doing!! she will throw that on the floor and make a mess and she doesn't have a bib on. (i stopped using bibs months ago) I said she eats ham all the time and if she drops it on floor i will clean it. She ignored me and pushed me out of the way for her to spoon feed her stage 3 food. This is an on going fight and I have no choice but for them to watch her while I have surgery.
Aside from the baby food they are totally against co sleeping. I actually stopped co sleeping so I could transition her to a floor bed she has in her own room. They actually went out and bought a crib because she needs one. I said she has a toddler bed she sleeps in every night and is fine, she does not need a crib. well she is sleeping in a crib at our house and thats final. she is too young for a bed and you let her do whatever she wants. they wont listen to me at all over anything.
I don't use a playpen, my house is baby proofed. They went and got a playpen so she could learn boundaries because I don't discipline her.Which is totally not the case, she knows what no means and most of the time she listens. She is 2 she will test peoples boundaries that does not mean she needs to spend time in a playpen most of the time.
over dressing, last weekend it was in the 80's. i fought for almost 20 minutes with my mom over the fact she does not need a jacket. its too hot and she is outside playing and sweating just in a tshirt and shorts. her reasoning was she was going to sweat and the breeze will make her sick?! Her logic makes no sense.
I honestly do not know what I can say to them anymore so they will listen to me. Anyone with advice you can offer? I am not comfortable with her staying there, i know they will take good care of her but I have certain issues they do not respect. thanks in advance guys!