How do you celebrate being pregnant? - Page 2

[Mommel]

Originally Posted by Mama~Love 

Wow, you ladies are some very happy pregnant mamas! I love being pregnant, but don't do anything to celebrate it. I hardly even talk about it. No one else is interested in it, so I don't bug anyone about it. I wish it could be all sunshine & lollipops & happiness for me, but it isn't. DH isn't involved at all, and doesn't do anything special for me. It seems silly to celebrate something that is only enjoyed by me.

Hugs to you, Mama! My partner took off in March and has yet to contact me since, so I understand a little bit about feeling unsupported. And truth be told, I despise being pregnant physically and emotionally speaking, but in trying to accept the reality of where I am and focus on the future joy of being a mama, I thought I'd jump on board the happiness train and just do the actions to celebrate even though I didn't feel like it... I have to say, from experience, that it works. I feel better and even though my external circumstances haven't changed (still broke, still have a crappy car and no health insurance, still no partner in sight, etc...), I'm excited about marking my time in this strange new form in a memorable way because I know it won't last for long... which on some days is more of a comfort than anything. LOL

[amycolefarrell]

This is a great thread! I definitely allow myself ice cream daiy. I counted calories constantly while not pregnant so allowing myself to eat what my body wants is a real celebration!

[Mama~Love]

Originally Posted by cparkly 

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Mollie, I am so sorry that you feel the people around you IRL do not share in your excitment. Does it count that I am happy for you? We lost babies last year right around the same time and I remember identifying deeply with your pain and sense of loss. I am so very, very happy that you are now carrying twins!

I am not trying to be trite, but maybe you would benefit from some simple kind of celebratory ritual; soaking your feet after work, going for a slow, gentle walk or swim, allowing yourself a few minutes each morning to focus on your little babies and "talk" internally to them, or anything else that seems appealing, really. 

I can only imagine how it must be to fell unsupported, and I am sorry.  Does your DH know how alone you feel in this?
 

Thank you, cparkly, for being happy for me! There's so much I'm paranoid over this time, I'm almost scared to do anything joyful. I'm scared to buy anything, to get too attached, or to make anything for them. DH knows how worried I am, but does nothing to help with it. He hasn't even tried feeling them move yet.

[Mama~Love]

Originally Posted by Mommel 

Hugs to you, Mama! My partner took off in March and has yet to contact me since, so I understand a little bit about feeling unsupported. And truth be told, I despise being pregnant physically and emotionally speaking, but in trying to accept the reality of where I am and focus on the future joy of being a mama, I thought I'd jump on board the happiness train and just do the actions to celebrate even though I didn't feel like it... I have to say, from experience, that it works. I feel better and even though my external circumstances haven't changed (still broke, still have a crappy car and no health insurance, still no partner in sight, etc...), I'm excited about marking my time in this strange new form in a memorable way because I know it won't last for long... which on some days is more of a comfort than anything. LOL

Thank you! I should do something, as it is a special time, but I never did anything with the other kids, so it seems a little weird to me.

[Mommel]

Originally Posted by Mama~Love 

Thank you! I should do something, as it is a special time, but I never did anything with the other kids, so it seems a little weird to me.

Weird, schmeird! Just dive in, mama! And get the little ones involved... maybe get them all to finger paint your belly and take pictures!! (Don't forget to share them too!!) Yaaaay!!! (*kermit the frog flailing arms*)
 

[Snugglebugmom]

Originally Posted by Mommel 

 And get the little ones involved... maybe get them all to finger paint your belly and take pictures!!

What an awesome idea!!! I think I'm going to do that once I near my due date, and the kids will have a decent sized canvas!

[mambera]

Originally Posted by cparkly 

I LOVE my pregnant body, too. I feel like a real mother goddess; round and fertile.

Geez, I wish I could feel this way.  Sadly, I *hate* being pregnant.  I love being a mom and am really excited for the new baby but I just can't stand the prospect of having to still be pregnant for another four months.  And honestly right now the biggest roadblock in my mind to ever having a third someday is the thought that I would have to be pregnant *again* for that to happen.

This has even been an easy pregnancy compared to my last; I had lots of MS with DD but haven't thrown up since about 15 weeks this time, which is awesome.  But I just can't stand having to walk around looking pregnant all the time.  I am a very private person and I hate having everyone know all about this aspect of my personal life.  DH is having a baby too but nobody is poking his belly and asking him personal questions.  I also just feel like I look big and sloppy which I also dislike.  All of my maternity clothing is horribly ugly and I don't have the time or inclination to waste money shopping for more.  And I am dreading the thought of having a pouchy belly for months and months postpartum (it took 18 months after DD to get back to my old measurements). 

I feel guilty for feeling this way because I know there are lots of women who would just love to be pregnant and are having a hard time getting there.  But it doesn't really change things for me.