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post #21 of 39

With our last daughter we had thought the whole time that we weren't going to find out, but when we did the ultrasound I caved and let them tell me.  In pregnancy you wait and wait and wait, and when the baby is born it's all there, it's all excitement.  Finding out the gender just makes that waiting so much more bearable, it adds that moment of excitement half way through.  I remember thinking after Phoebe was born that there is no way finding out her gender when she was born could have made the event any more exciting then it already was.  We will be finding out via a reveal party with our family this time :D

post #22 of 39

I'm excited to find out at the ultrasound!  We found out with my daughter, and I really think it helped to bring a sort of abstract idea into reality for me.  I feel like we bonded more ahead of time because I knew she was my daughter.  This time it's not as abstract to me, but I still think it will be a good decision emotionally for us-- even though neither of us have our hearts set on a particular gender.

 

While I'm not into pink princesses and blue trucks/sports, I don't want everything to be gender neutral either.  So it's nice for preparations, but that's a secondary reason.

post #23 of 39

I'm pregnant with my first, and before I got pregnant, I always said that I did not want to find out. But about a week after I found out, I realized that all I want to do is nest and be prepared. As some have stated, I'm not all pink=girl and blue=boy, but I'm not completely gender neutral either. So we're going to find out and tell close family and friends, but keep the gender on the down low for most other folks so we have some element of surprise at the birth as well. :)

post #24 of 39

nope, i love the waiting :)

 

post #25 of 39

I love not knowing. There is something magical about the pregnancy daydreams and wondering who your child is going to be. For me, not knowing the sex of the baby just adds to the mystery and excitement. We found out with our first and did not with the next two and we enjoyed not knowing more :)

post #26 of 39

surprise for us! we did the same for our first two.  we had 20 week ultrasound and just told the tech we didn't want to know the sex. never had any trouble.

 

It's one of the few things left in life to be TRULY surprised.  I love it each time. :D

post #27 of 39

We're going to let it be a surprise. DH really wanted to wait last time, but I couldn't stand it. Immediately after I was sad that I didn't wait. Then, of course, since everyone knew it was a girl, they bought TONS of pink and purple and hardly anything gender-neutral. This time I'm all for waiting. We may not even have an U/S at all because I don't like the unknowns of them (we'll decide after having a discussion with the midwife about it). Either way, I just don't want to know. I think it'll be a nice present on Twig's (which is what we're calling him/her) birthday to find out. 

post #28 of 39

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Originally Posted by demoonunit View Post

I'm pregnant with my first, and before I got pregnant, I always said that I did not want to find out. But about a week after I found out, I realized that all I want to do is nest and be prepared. As some have stated, I'm not all pink=girl and blue=boy, but I'm not completely gender neutral either. So we're going to find out and tell close family and friends, but keep the gender on the down low for most other folks so we have some element of surprise at the birth as well. :)

 

If you tell anyone, all they'll get you is pink or blue (depending on what it is). Seriously I think I received like 1 thing that wasn't girly. 
 

 

post #29 of 39

We decided not to find out.  We did with our first, third and fifth.  We did not find out with our second and fourth.  It seems right to wait to find out this time too :D

post #30 of 39

We will definitely find out. I would find out now if I could, I like to know as soon as I can!

post #31 of 39

Providing there is just one we are going to be suprised. If its twins, I made a clause, that we will find out. I like the idea of waiting until the birth to find out what it is. With DD when we adopted, we knew she was going to be a girl so I like the idea of a suprise this time. I also *cough cough* may have already bought a gender neutral crib set at Target on Clearance.. it was normaly $179 and I found it for $35. And I LOVE it!!! I told DH if it is more than 1 we will be driving to every Target I can think of to find another, since the set was discontinued.

post #32 of 39

We'll be finding out. Though I'm 99% sure it's another girl. I'd be FLOORED if it was a boy. But I'd want to know.

post #33 of 39

With my first my husband really wanted to know...so we found out.  With my second I needed to mentally prepare if it was a boy...so we found out.  I just talked to the old man and he agreed we would find out at birth if we can come up a reasonable name list.

post #34 of 39

If it's a boy I want to be suprised. If it's a girl I want to find out (well, mainly DH wants to know!). So, since there isn't a third gender, haha, I guess we will find out at the u/s. I do want to have the tech write it down and put it in an envelope for us to find out later, though. I think it would be fun to let a bakery bake a cake with the gender color of icing, and us cut the cake later to find out what if it's a boy or a girl. It was too impersonal for the tech to just go "it's a boy" with DS. If we have a third I would love to wait to find out... I just have to convince DH!! :)

post #35 of 39

I've seen the cake idea too and thought it was really cute!

post #36 of 39

We didn't find out with ds1 (not our choice, the tech lied when I asked and claimed it was too early) although we suspected when the doctor started saying 'he' after the ultrasound. Did find out with ds2 & tried to with ds3, but he wasn't having any of that. :) Definitely going to try to find out this time. This is definitely the last (dh wanted ds3 to be the last) and we both really, really want a girl. Hopefully it is & we can find out. It might even make telling certain people easier.

 

Not really having any feelings either way. Just too stressed.

post #37 of 39

I do not plan on having any ultrasounds, so we will not be finding out.  Husband and I want to be surprised!  And we also don't want any gender-specific clothes, so it works out great.  Gonna be lots of cream, yellow, green, orange, and rainbow stuff!  This is exciting. love.gif

post #38 of 39

We are waiting. I have found out with the past 6 babies and DH really wants to wait this time and I am ok with that. I will just get gender nuetral stuff for baby.

post #39 of 39

We will wait too! It's our first so it really just adds to the excitement... I, so far, am planning on being as low tech as possible, so really how would we find out? orngbiggrin.gif

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