Filed for a divorce this month...

[mi.birthdoula]

Hello all!

I haven't been on Mothering in a while, but I think I'm going to need the support of this forum again.  Dh and I have been married since Sept 2004, and we are now going through a divorce.  Dh has been on MANY dating sites since 3 months into our marriage, but took it to a whole other level last Nov.  He posted naked pics of himself on Craigslist looking for a "lunch special" as he titled it.  I agreed after much coersion from our church to try to work it out yet again.  But I just couldn't get over it and it has been eating at me since then.  He was still the cocky disrespectful non-loving person he was before and I had just had it.  So I found a lawyer and using the money I received from donating my eggs, I put a retainer down and filed for divorce on May 4th and he will be served the divorce complaint, custody/support, and status quo motions this next week.  I told him I wanted a divorce a couple of weeks before that so he knows its coming, just not when.  He completely emptied our joint checking and savings and left me with $50 only.  He has given me $140 to take care of the kids over the course of 1.5 months.  He is constantly begging for sex, and is now trying to act like he cares about me and the kids despite him not helping take care of them.  I know it is just a tactic because he is scared crap less because he knows I've thrown my hands up about it once and for all. 

Anyways, thats the long story short.  I'm at peace and happy with my decision, and am looking to restart my life and be happy again. 

I hope you all don't mind me joining you all, because even though I'm at peace now, I'm sure there will be bumps and mountains I will need to overcome in the coming months.

Crystal

[NolaRiordan]

Wishing you smooth sailing from this point forward! Hope it goes well. But feel free to come here for support and venting if you need it.

So did you have bank statements or anything to prove what was in those accounts?

So are you asking for interim support?

[mi.birthdoula]

Originally Posted by NolaRiordan 

Wishing you smooth sailing from this point forward! Hope it goes well. But feel free to come here for support and venting if you need it.

So did you have bank statements or anything to prove what was in those accounts?

So are you asking for interim support?

Thank you! 

And yes to both! My name is still on the account so the lady at the credit union was VERY helpful.  I just told her the situation and she pulled up all the account info all the way back to the beginning of the year, which also included our tax information, lol.  She was supposed to charge per page, but she refused to.  I've found that by just telling people my situation I tend to get a lot more done without any hassles! :)

My lawyer is filing for support on Tuesday when the courts open back up.  I signed the papers yesterday for that.  He is NOT happy at all about having to pay support to me now as well.  He has another son from previously that he already has his wages garnished for by the FOTC.

[NolaRiordan]

Good! Also are you filing for sole use of the property? Or are you planning on leaving?