8 years ago i had my first baby, it was an extremely difficult birth, my baby was stuck at the shoulders and i had a 3rd degree tear, he weighed 9lb 8oz and was told because my tear needed surgery it would be best to have c sections if i wanted more children. i have since had another 4 children and all of them through c sections, ive always laboured myself but was then whisked off for a section. It was only with my last baby that i was told i wouldnt be able to have any more c sections and they wished for me to be sterilised. I was devastated as i desperately want more children and so far all my children have been boys. I got a really good midwife who said she would support me in a vbac but when i went into labour the hospital couldnt get hold of her as it was 3am and the midwife on the ward didnt feel comfortable and so after scaring me saying my heart rate was to high indicating the scar could be under stress i gave in and had a c section. my heart rate was high as i was nervous and there was no thinning to the scar i later found out, I was in hospital for 3days and the staff were just horrible with me, it seems to be the crime of the century to have 4 c sections and not be sterilised and so drugs were not given on time leaving me in awful pain and when i complained i was told it was because i had just had my 4th c section and basically that was that. I couldnt wait to take my baby home and after promising my husband i would make an official complaint i was just so relieved to be home and in control of my own pain relief i just left it. However my desire to to have another baby and possibly a girl i fell pregnant again, immediately i was told i could not have a trial of labour and as this would be my 5th c section it was srongly recommended that i was sterilised. At my 20 weeks scan i found out im finally getting my girl, im over the moon and feel so blessed but now the pressure is really on as all i keep hearing is uv finally got a girl so its time to stop now and if i refuse to be sterilised the hospital will not support me in another pregnancy. Im so worried as i would love to give birth to long awaited little girl naturally, that way i wont have the c section and the lack of care afterwards, ill be able to go home the same day, i wont have to be sterillised and i can go on to have another child if i want to. Ive tried to look up the risks of vbacx4 but cant really find much information on it. My babys due in 4weeks and theyv already booked my c section for the 17th june, has any1 got any information that can help me?
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