I'm really struggling with the question of having another baby. My dd is 3 and we had originally thought that we would have two by now. Although the early baby years were really hard, especially for my husband (who has aspergers and doesn't deal easily with change or chaos), our daughter has just brought so much joy into our lives. We just have so much fun as a family and it seems that we laugh and play more than we ever did pre-children.
We had planned to have two children, but I worry that adding another could really upset our delicate balance. But, I worry that I will regret not having another. And if it were just me I would certainly want another one, or even two! But, my husband never wanted children but has lovingly been willing to have them because it means so much to me. And he has a great relationship with dd and is really glad that we had her. It has taken three years to find our center again (and there are still struggles). I'm afraid of ruining what we have right now, though.
Our circumstances might make our situation different from a typical family (whatever that is!), but I'm curious if anyone added another child to their family and then it upset things to the point that there were regrets. I guess that might be hard to say because we love our children and couldn't imagine life without them once they are here.
Still, I thought I'd ask....