My BF and I both have 7 year olds (mine is a girl, hers is a boy). We've all been hanging around together for 5 years now. I think her DS exhibits irrational and bullying behavior at times. Sometimes the two kids get along great. Other times, he seems to be mean for no known reason ("stop copying me", "ha ha, you fell down" etc). One of his favorite tactics is to taunt my DD about something ridiculous ("you love to watch baby shows" "yes you do, yes you do, yes you do"). He also loves to completely ignore her sometimes, but if she plays with his little brother he suddenly becomes very interested in getting him away from her. He sometimes treats her like she's the enemy. It is very confusing. :(
Now I don't mean to make it sound like it is always this way. But it has been an underlying theme. I have called him on it a couple of times, but my BF never (a) notices, or (b) says anything. I find it hard to believe she can't see it, but I know she's preoccupied with her other child a lot.
I'm so sad today. After this last get together that was supposed to be fun (pizza, park, ice cream) but ended with her son pretty much ignoring DD other than telling her to stop following him, I think I know we need to not hang out together anymore. It isn't fair to put her in that position. I know she needs to learn how to stand up for herself, but I think she's doing an ok job....he's just mean. And I'm starting to develop hard feelings toward my BF for not telling her brat to cut it out. I also am starting to think it is not healthy....she counts him as a friend, but I don't want her thinking this is how friends behave.
The dilemma is that we have (against my better judgement) already planned and booked two mini-vacations this summer. One of them is at my DD's favorite place in the world, and I'll be darned if I let this other kid ruin it for her. My BF and I have also mapped out lots of fun things to do with the kids (zoo, festival, etc). But tonight I am so annoyed with her and especially her son that I don't want to do any of it.
This is all really bad luck for me because I'm super introverted and have a heck of a time making good friends/feeling comfortable around people. She's practically the only one I hang around with. And now I see that has to be very limited (she's never without her kids, so it was easy for us all to get together for dinners or whatever). Basically if we don't hang out with the kids, we won't be hanging out. But that's a sacrifice I have to make for DD.
But I just want to be sure I'm not overreacting (I admit I'm seething at the moment). This isn't a case of "kids being kids" right? Doesn't this sound like bullying behavior? DD has a bit of a hard time. She's young for her age, and she's full of energy, so at times I can see how that might be annoying. But she's certainly not mean.